As the saying goes, 'If you don't send something, it will be empty if you give it away.' What does it mean if you don't send it? Does it make sense?

As we all know, since ancient times, China has been a country of etiquette, and Confucian culture has penetrated into everyone's blood. There is an old saying called the old saying. "Come instead of politeness", which means that gift-giving is mutual, and it is also a reflection of the sophistication.

In addition, there is an old saying called "a thousand miles to send goose feathers, the gift is light and generous." That is to say, no matter how heavy the gift is, as long as the heart arrives. However, gift-giving seems like a very simple thing, yet there are still many views and concerns.

There is a popular saying in the people: "If you don't send things seven times, it's empty to send people to disperse wealth." What is the rationale and argument.

No bells, candles and pears

Due to a special custom in China, we are very afraid of some words, especially homophonic stems. For example, in ancient times, gifts could not be given. "Zhong" is a kind of thing, because "Zhong" and "End" (end of life) are homophonic.

"Fu" exists in ancient culture. "Five blessings" means more longevity, more sons, more fields, more talents and more blessings. This is exactly the reason why Kangxi wrote "the first blessing in China", which shows how deep the ancients' feelings for longevity are.

Therefore, if someone celebrates a festival or a birthday, you will undoubtedly give the owner a "bell", which will make the owner feel very unfortunate, and feel that you are cursing others for their early death, which violates traditional social concepts, and will naturally be despised by the owner, relatives and friends.

There are also clock-like things called "candles" that cannot be sent. Maybe many people will think that there are no light bulbs in ancient times, and candles are the daily lighting of every family. Is it unreasonable to send them these things?

Actually, no. The commonly used lighting tools in ancient times were not candles, but oil lamps. Candles mainly appear in two situations. First, it is used when men and women get married. The "red candle" is another type of "white candle" used in family funerals.

Everyone has a mentality of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages. As long as there are more than sending candles, many people will often seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. "White candle" think about it, it will make others guess that you are cursed in secret, so it is not auspicious to give candles to living people.

There are also candles "the torch turns into ashes and tears begin to dry." In ancient times, it meant a love poem, birthday, and it was undoubtedly inappropriate to send such a thing on a birthday, and it would be laughed at by others and did not understand etiquette.

Except for "bells", "candles" cannot be sent, and fruits like pears cannot be sent either. The skin of pears is thin and juicy, which can produce body fluid and quench thirst. It is cheap and popular. " is a homonym.

As the saying goes, “Ten years of cultivation can lead to the same boat crossing, and a hundred years of cultivation can lead to sleeping on the same pillow.” Husbands and wives are affectionate and righteous. Coupled with various karma, a man and a woman can come together. Marriage was regarded as a very sacred thing by men and women in ancient times.

It is the goal that every couple pursues, and it represents the love, family and prosperity between husband and wife. The way of family harmony is based on the way of family harmony, and the relationship between husband and wife is the most important. If the relationship between husband and wife cannot last, the family will not exist.

Therefore, it is said that "the husband and wife are in harmony with the future family." Only when the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious can parents enjoy their old age and children can grow up healthily. This is the greatest pursuit of the ancients. On this basis, if the couple is cursed, there is no doubt that "divorce" is inappropriate.

Although there is no scientific reason for giving pears, it does not conform to the cultural concept of the public, just like people who eat pears now do not eat pears. "Dividing pears to eat" is the same, because the separation of pears means separation, especially between husband and wife.

Wallets and shoes cannot be delivered

With the rapid development of the modern economy, many people's family conditions are relatively good. Buying more shoes and clothes can't wear them out. It's painful to throw away a pair of hundreds of people. It's not necessary for relatives to wear them. It saves money. , earn more people.

Under such an economic concept, many people believe that "not allowing shoes to be delivered" is a very evil thing. In fact, this seemingly boring proverb contains a deep cultural heritage, or ancient culture.

"Shoe" and "evil" are homophonic stalks. Now many elderly people will send "five poor" on the fifth day of the new year, and "five poor" is a kind of broken shoes, which means to throw out all the poverty and evil in the family next year. .

Of course, this is only one of the related claims. There is such a scene in "Water Margin", after Wang Po discovered Ximen Qing and Pan Jinlian, she asked Pan Jinlian for the same thing as evidence, and Pan Jinlian was finally forced to give her a pair of shoes.

Many people don't understand this story because you don't understand the meaning of ancient shoes. The shoes of the ancients, especially women's shoes, can completely represent a person. If a woman gives her shoes to a man, it means a lifetime of private life.

More strictly speaking, a woman's shoes represent the chastity of her life, which shows how important it is. Pan Jinlian gave the shoes to Wang Po, which means that he has a handle in his hand. If he tells the government, he will be considered disloyal and will be severely punished. Therefore, the ancients never gave shoes, especially women.

After the shoes, let's look at the wallet. Some people think that sending a wallet means shipping out. There is such a meaning, but sending a wallet is more like sending shoes.

The ancient purse can also be regarded as a kind of sachet, she is a woman's personal belongings, if a woman gives a purse to a man, it is very interesting to him, so the purse cannot be given away at will. Wallets are different.

Pillows and fish tanks cannot be delivered

"Getting rich" is everyone's dream, and everyone will say a sentence "Gong Xi Fa Cai" will be very popular, which is a cultural custom that has been passed down for thousands of years, and pillows and fish bowls represent a kind of wealth.

In the Five Elements, there is "gold produces water" and there is a folk saying "water is wealth, and water can generate wealth." In ancient times, many families believed that water was a symbol of wealth, and water also meant Feng Shui.

Under this concept, the "fish tank" has become a symbol of family wealth. It can not only play a very good decorative role, but also be considered to "raise wealth" at home, which is a good sustenance for future life. There are fish." That's what it means.

Why can't the pillow be delivered? There is a word in the old saying called "sit back and relax", that is to say, the pillow represents a person's blessings and wealth. Naturally, such things cannot be given away, otherwise it is a gift of luck.

In addition, pillows are also a personal thing for a person. There is another thing between couples who "share a bed together". Sending pillows is like sending shoes and sachets. It is easy to be misunderstood, so pillows are not suitable as gifts.

In general, "reciprocity" cannot send mold to others, cannot send away one's own blessings, cannot send some special meanings, and other things are basically no problem.