As the saying goes, 'If you don't send something, it will be empty if you give it away.' What does it mean if you don't send it? Does it make sense?

Chinese culture has a long history. China has been known as the country of etiquette since ancient times. So far, despite the dramatic changes in people's way of life, many of the underlying customs remain to this day. In fact, these are some established rules.

For example, there is a saying in China that "Giving a rose to a person has a lingering fragrance" in daily life. It can be seen that Chinese people like to give gifts and share very much, but gift-giving is not casual. Anything can be given, which is very special. People once said that "seven gifts are not given, and it is also empty to give away money." Let's take a detailed look at the details here.

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I cannot send pears and clocks

The first thing you can't send is pears. This taboo is also common in everyday life. We have been taught from childhood that pears cannot be eaten by others, because the homonym of pears is "separation" and "li". In ancient people's thinking, eating pears separately from others means being separated from this person in the future.

Gift giving should also avoid this statement. If there are pears in the gift, the host's family will feel that you want to part ways with him. In fact, this rule is still quoted by many. Pears are rarely shared among friends, relatives and lovers. After all, while it's just a morality, no one wants this bad morality to happen to them, so pears must be avoided when giving gifts to people.

The second is naturally the clock. Like pears, it's an everyday no-no. There are many taboos in sending bells. Sending a bell has many taboos. "Send the end" For Chinese, the homonym is a very vicious curse that will make the host feel offended.

Whether it is sending the elderly or children, this is a curse for others to die prematurely. Of course, such gifts are highly unwelcome. At the same time, in ancient times, clocks were closely related to funeral culture. In ancient times, people would ring a large bell after death, so the bell was always associated with funerals. As a gift, the clock is naturally not suitable.

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Can't send candles and wallets

The reason we can't deliver candles is actually very similar to a clock. Candles have long been associated with funeral culture. Many people think that candles were commonly used in ancient times, but in fact, ancient lighting relied more on oil lamps, which the poor could not afford. Of course, they couldn't afford candles. The only places where candles are used are marriages and mourning halls. When married, the candles are red and the mourning hall is white, but in general, there are more white candles used for funerals, so candles cannot be given as gifts.

For wallets, this is not as taboo as mentioned above. It's okay to give your wallet to someone close to you, but if you are an ordinary friend, try not to give a wallet, because as the name suggests, a wallet represents a person's wealth.

People think that if you give your wallet at will, you will give others your fortune and luck. While many modern people opt for a purse as a gift, it's highly inappropriate if you dig deeper.

In ancient times, wallets could not be given away at will. In ancient times, a wallet was a wallet, and a woman's wallet could be regarded as a kind of sachet. In ancient times, this more intimate thing was usually given to someone you like and not a gift for everyday friends. So if you want to give a wallet, it depends on your relationship with the other person, but it's best not to give a wallet as a gift. After all, no one knows if this is true.

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No fish tank, shoes, pillows

It is said that a wallet represents a person's wealth, so a fish bowl represents a family's feng shui and luck. Therefore, fish tanks are more taboo than wallets. It cannot be given as a gift. There is an ancient saying that "water can make money". Therefore, many wealthy families will open a small pond at home and raise a lot of koi in it to gather luck for the family.

In modern times, there are various types of fish tanks. The fish and water in the tank collect wealth for the family. Even the placement and production of fish tanks in many households is very special. The fish tank itself is a gift with a lot of taboos.

Even if you want to give it to someone else, you may be afraid to accept it, because you are giving away your family's luck by giving it away. Others may be afraid to accept your kindness. If you have to send it to a fish tank, you can't put fish and water in it, and you can't have anything representing your family. In general, it is not recommended to use a fish tank as a gift.

As for shoes, this is also an opportunity that has been handed down from time immemorial. When we were young, we often heard old people remind us that we can't give shoes as gifts because shoes are worn on our feet and make people walk. If we give each other shoes, it means letting each other go, which means severing the relationship between two people.

In ancient times, shoes were a very personal thing, especially for women. In those times when women were severely restrained, women's feet were not easy to see. Their husbands can only see them after they are married. Therefore, the shoes of ancient women are not what everyone can give and basically they are made by themselves.

There is also a saying that you can't send shoes, that is, "shoes" is a homonym of "send evil", which is considered evil. If you send shoes, the owner's family will think that you are sending all the evil and bad things. If there is something wrong with the owner's family in the future, he will think that it is because you sent the shoes. Of course, we should give everyone a gift. This will lead to a bad relationship. We should try to avoid it.

Pillows are easier to understand. There is an idiom called "sit back and relax." In ancient times, the pillow represented status and official luck. Generally, pillows are considered a symbol of career luck. So if you give away pillows at will, you may be giving away your career luck.

Pillows are also a very personal thing. In ancient times, only couples were called "sleeping in the same bed." If you gave someone a pillow at random, you would give the other person the wrong signal that you were sending him an ambiguous signal. If you misunderstand the relationship because of the gift, that's not good.

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Epilogue

Generally speaking, there are many rules to gift giving, but it's not as complicated as you might think. Of course, giving gifts should first be based on the other person's preferences. These cannot be used as gifts if the other person doesn't mind. But try to avoid these taboos. After all, there are many other things that can be used as gifts and in auspicious meanings.