The last joke that adults should make to children: 'Your mother doesn't love you anymore', have you ever told your child?

Every child can be said to be very dependent on their parents, especially children. Their only sense of security may come from their parents. Parents also want to give their children a sense of security and give their children full love. But in real life, many parents unknowingly destroy their sense of security.

We all know that children love their parents very much, but in our daily life, we will often find that some adults make jokes with children, and will tell them that your mother doesn’t want you, and children will cry at this time, although everyone We all know that mothers must love their children very much, so they will joke freely, but the children will take it seriously. But no one should make a child feel that "Mom doesn't love me anymore."

As a parent, you should always tell your child that your love for your child is as high as a mountain and as deep as the sea. Although parents have to work outside to earn money and give their children the best life, there is no way to accompany them every day. Beside the child, but the love for the child will never be less.

A netizen once said that when his child was over a year old, because he was busy with work, he asked his grandmother to help take care of the child for a period of time. The baby had just stopped breastfeeding at that time, so every day he saw his mother, he would jump over and rejoice. I am excited to ask my mother to take me downstairs to play, jumping around my mother, my mother must be very happy when she is with her child, but sometimes my grandmother will joke to the child that my mother goes to work. I don’t want you anymore, the child will cry, the mother told the grandma not to say this, the child will take it seriously, she should say to the child: Mom will come back early to play with the baby after going to work, because every A mother says that children are her own heart and soul, and no matter how much love is not enough, how can she not want her own children.

Another friend shared his own story. His parents were divorced when he was very young. Because there was a big conflict between the parents at that time, there was no way to reconcile them, so the conflicts between the relatives on both sides were also very big, and the father was always there. In front of him, he said that his mother was not good, how his mother abandoned his wife, how hard-hearted he did not care about his children, and even scolded his mother in front of him many times. When Dad was talking, he didn't observe the child's stiff face and scarred heart, so the child was rebellious, ran away from home, and went out to work before finishing middle school, during which his mother would visit her, But she hides every time, and sometimes quarrels with her mother, and the conflict will get deeper and deeper.

But when this child shared with us, he told the truth that he still misses his mother very much, but when he thinks of what he did, it is very painful, and his mother has been asking friends around him for news about the child. , but because the father forbids the mother and the child to contact each other, they have to be sneaky every time they meet, so the gap between the mother and the child will always exist and become deeper and deeper, and the mother and the child have always been immersed in pain.

In fact, for divorced families, the parental love in the child's heart is more important. Although the family is separated due to some reasons, the care and love of the parents for the child and the attachment of the child to the parents should not be Since these things are cut across the board, in other words, adults can draw a clear line and stand, but for children, parents are equally important, and they should not bear too much pain for the mistakes of adults. Therefore, no matter what the reason is, every adult should maintain the most important love in the child's heart. No matter what the circumstances, parents should let the child feel that his parents actually love him very much, even if he is not in his own. Beside me, this love still exists. This feeling is a basis for children's psychological security, and it is also the most important factor for their personality development in the future growth process.