Smart parents will be 'strong' rather than 'strong' in the process of parenting, are you?
As for raising children, all parents will use up all their life-long learning. Different parents have different parenting methods and experiences. The same principle, different parenting methods, will raise different children. , Really smart parents, the correct parenting method must be strong, not strong, parents will use their own strong infectious power to infect their children and give them strong support. If the parents are too strong, then the children They will lack the care of their parents that should belong to them, and then the children will become timid when they grow up.
Powerful literally means having strength and firm will, and strong means being self-centered and indifferent to the feelings of others. Although these two words seem to have little difference, they are actually different in nature. , Especially in the process of parenting, should we be the child's support, or should we keep instructing our own children?
My opinion is that only by truly becoming a child's support can a child grow up happily, because only with a growth environment full of sunshine and strength can a child grow up healthily.
In our daily life, we always meet different kinds of parents. Some parents have a weak and unconfident character, but they are always strict and strong towards their children, because they I don’t want my children to be as cowardly as myself, so I choose to treat their children in a strong way to make up for their own character defects. Some parents, who are relatively strong, treat their children equally strongly, they are always the same as themselves. A child can be as strong as himself. In fact, these two kinds of parents are not smart and successful parents. You know, but a smart parent should be strong enough, but be gentle with their children, because they know that children need love , need to be nurtured by the patience, tolerance, democracy and understanding of parents.
When their children encounter setbacks, parents often give their children strong support and actively encourage their children. Children who grow up in such an environment must have stronger ability to withstand pressure and survive. Some Although the parents are ordinary, the children they educate are very healthy and very successful. Because such parents are simple and kind, they can provide a strong support for the healthy growth of the children in the future.
So in the process of parenting, how can parents be strong and not strong?
The first thing that needs to be done is not to blindly make demands to children. The most important thing in all things is the process, not the result, so that children can make progress and reflect in the process of participating, and give them enough space and time. A parent must understand that being strong is never the best way to educate children. No one wants to live in a strong environment, and being strong is far different. Being strong is a powerful support for children.
From the time the child goes to kindergarten, the child will begin to encounter various difficulties on his own life path, and the child will begin to make some choices and hesitations on these difficulties. At this critical time, if the parents can timely be behind the child Push the child and become a strong backing for the child, then the child will have stronger self-confidence to face all kinds of difficulties in the future. If the child is facing difficulties, the parents do not provide support, but instead reprimand and scold him, The child may be even more helpless, and will only retreat in the face of difficulties in the future.
Therefore, parents need to be strong on their own. This kind of strength does not necessarily have to be materially strong or service, but more should be spiritually strong. It means that the family is rich, in terms of educating children. , Don't always ask children, communicate more with children, think more from the perspective of children, and guide children in the right way, so that children can have a healthy growth environment.