Wise parents will not do these things easily in front of their children. Check it out, whether you have done it or not.
From the moment a child is born, parents are the first contact with the child. In a child's life, parents are the closest people to their children. It can be said that during their childhood, parents are always with their children. It is said that parents are the first teachers in a child's life. This is because in the daily life that parents accompany their children, children's eagerness to learn will prompt children to imitate their parents' behaviors. Therefore, parents' education for children should not be just about telling, but Lead by example, so as to better achieve the purpose of educating children.
If parents do bad behaviors, children may blindly imitate or even learn, so what behaviors should parents avoid in front of their children:
1. Parents do not have consistent educational principles
In some families, parents are busy with work, and the task of taking care of children is left to the elderly at home. The elderly are generally more lenient in the management of their children, and can tolerate their children's mistakes more. But parents are more strict, which is prone to disagreements. For example, parents require children to watch TV for only half an hour a day, but the elderly think that it is no big deal to let children watch TV for a while. This can easily confuse the child, and even become "bullying the soft and afraid of the hard". Obey the parent's rules in front of the parent, but once the parent can't supervise all the time, the child starts to pamper himself all over again. Therefore, the concepts and principles of educating children in a family must be unified, otherwise there will be very unfavorable factors for the growth of children.
2. Parents do not recognize the importance of toys to their children
Most parents don't understand why a toy is important. Maybe for parents, a toy is just a tool for entertaining children. However, in the eyes of children, their toys are another spiritual sustenance besides family members. Children can play happily with toys, or secretly tell their little emotions with toys. Toys are to children what people are now dependent on their mobile phones. I often forget to bring my keys but rarely forget to take my phone out. Therefore, parents should not destroy their children's toys at will, which will cause great harm to his young mind.
3. Often complaining in front of children
Some adults always want to find a place to vent their dissatisfaction after returning home after a long day of work. No matter how you vent your emotions, don't let your child see or hear it. Because children's ability to express is weak, it is difficult for children to find a platform to vent their dissatisfaction after hearing what adults have complained about. This kind of complaining emotion has been pressing on the child's psychology, and over time, the child will become inferior and pessimistic, which will have an adverse effect on the child's growth.
4. Adults often break the rules themselves
Sometimes parents will set some rules for their children. For example, they must get up at 6 am to exercise, and they cannot play mobile phones after 10 pm. Although these rules are used to control children, adults must also abide by the rules set by themselves. Otherwise, the child sees that the parents themselves are not following the rules, and thinks that these things are not important at all, and even if they are destroyed, it will not have any effect. How can a child possibly comply with these regulations under such an idea? Therefore, when disciplining children, the most important thing is that parents must lead by example, not only by words, but also by example.