Being bullied outside, but dare not tell their parents: How desperate are children who cannot help their parents?
In today's educational environment, there is a situation that is very common. That is, when a child is bullied or hurt by others at school or during outdoor activities, he chooses not to tell his parents when he returns home, but bears it silently. There are countless vicious incidents caused by this phenomenon. There is a news report: a child who was in the fifth grade of elementary school was scratched by a stray cat when he went out to play. When he returned home, he was afraid of being blamed by his parents. Choose to hide the truth. When the parents knew, they had missed the best time to get vaccinated, which eventually led to the child suffering from rabies vaccine and died. A young life is so fragile in the face of disease. If the child could communicate with the parents in time and let the adults understand the specific situation, perhaps the tragedy would not have happened.
Parents should be the closest people to their children. They should have sought help immediately after they were hurt. What is the reason why children would rather endure the pain on their own than tell their parents?
1. Lack of trust between parents and children
In the child's mind, the parents are the safe haven that they can trust no matter what happens, so the child wants to share anything with the parents, especially when encountering difficulties or confusion, the child's first choice is to tell the parents help. But at this time, many parents don't take their children's help seriously, or answer their children with a perfunctory attitude. What's more, after the children ask for help, they blame the children for this, thinking that the children's ability is insufficient or they do not accept it. It is your own advice that leads to difficulties. In the long run, such communication will make children feel that their parents cannot help them solve difficulties at all, and sometimes they will be blamed by their parents. When children completely lose trust in their parents, they will hide everything by themselves and not tell their parents.
2. The child is too sensible
In some families, parents pay great attention to the sensible level of their children and are too strict with their children's education. The children taught in this way are very independent, obey their parents' words, and are too obedient and obedient. But I have developed such a habit in my daily life that I think I should do my own things myself, and I almost never take the initiative to ask for help from others, and only rely on my own abilities. Therefore, even if the child encounters difficulties, he will not mention it to the parents. Such sensibleness has become a little deformed, and will cause inevitable trouble to both children and parents in the future.
3. Parents are full of negative energy
Some parents, although they also pay more attention to the growth of their children, do not pay attention to their performance in life at all. For example, there is such a mother who always shows her dissatisfaction with life in front of her children, her mouth is full of complaints, she will only sigh when she encounters something, and even cry when she encounters a problem. If a family has such a mother, how can her child have an optimistic attitude and will not choose to ask the mother for help after encountering something, because he knows that even telling the mother is useless. The status of the parents has a great influence on the children. In the process of contacting children, parents should try to put away their dissatisfaction or complaints, and be full of optimism and self-confidence in front of their children, which can also make children more sunny and more like to communicate with their families.
In the process of educating children, we must pay attention to the parent-child relationship. Only by cultivating an excellent parent-child relationship can children grow up more smoothly.