Whether the child is obedient or not depends on whether the parents have 'satisfied' him. Have you done it?

I believe that many parents have such a problem in educating their children, that is, sometimes when they ask their children to do something, the child will show a very unhappy appearance, and they will not do it all the time. In the process of this matter, he will deliberately delay time, and he has no initiative at all. But sometimes when he asks the child to play or watch TV, he seems to be a different person, and he runs to play before the parents have finished talking. This was completely different from his usual reaction when he was called to study.

A mother shared her experience of raising a baby: "My child would rather spend four hours a day fiddling with his blocks and puzzles than spend dozens of minutes helping me with a little housework, which I don't understand. child's mind". In fact, this is easy to understand, because puzzles and building blocks are what children like, and playing with building blocks can satisfy the child's psychology, so he is willing to spend a lot of time and energy on it. But parents can't understand their children and always want them to do things they don't like to do. If the children treat them negatively, they will be blamed by their parents for being too lazy. Think about the child's initiative and diligence when playing games. Is that kind of focus and dedication a lazy child can have? The reason is that when a child does not like to do something, he will treat it negatively. If the child likes it, he will be particularly active.

This is also true in learning. Many teachers or parents will say when a child's grades are not good, the child is too lazy and is not good at learning at all. But look at the results of one of the children's subjects, it is very outstanding, and there is a big gap with other subjects. The fundamental reason for this phenomenon of partiality is also because children are very interested in one of the subjects, but have no interest and energy to study other subjects. For example, a child who likes mathematics since childhood will be very slow when he recites Chinese texts or English words, not because the child is stupid, but because he does not actively study. When he encounters some numbers, the fanatical side will manifest, pestering parents to ask the unit and meaning of the number. Parents may find it boring, but this is the best manifestation of a child's curiosity and thirst for knowledge.

In fact, the same is true for adults. You will find that time flies quickly when you are doing what you like. Maybe you don’t think how long has passed, and one day has passed. But when you do something you don't like, you will feel that every second is like a year, and you have to look at your watch every few minutes, lamenting why time goes so slowly. Therefore, whether a person is willing to take the initiative to do something depends on whether it can satisfy him or not.

According to this principle, educating children will become less difficult. For example, when you let your child do homework, you can make a "deal" with him, telling the child that if he can finish his homework quickly, he will be rewarded for watching TV for half an hour. Watching TV is something children like, which will make him There is enough motivation to complete the tasks assigned by the parents to achieve multiplier effect. It not only allows the child to efficiently complete the instructions of the parents, but also allows the child's needs to be met.

Therefore, in the process of educating children, parents must learn to see the inner needs of their children, and timely meeting their children's needs can have a very important and beneficial impact on educating children.