Whether a child is obedient or not depends on whether the parents 'satisfy' him. Have you done it?

I believe that many parents have such a problem in educating their children, that is, sometimes when they ask their children to do something, the children will show a very unhappy look, and they will not do it. On the way to this matter, I will deliberately delay the time, and I have no initiative at all. But sometimes when the child is called to play or watch TV, he seems to be a different person, and he has already gone to play before the parents finish talking. This was completely different from his usual reaction when he was asked to study.

A mother shared her experience of raising a baby and said: "My child would rather spend four hours a day playing with his building blocks and puzzles than spend tens of minutes helping me with a little housework. This makes me very puzzled." child's mind". In fact, this is easy to understand, because puzzles and building blocks are what children like. Playing with building blocks can satisfy the child's psychology, so he is willing to spend a lot of time and energy on it. But parents can't understand their children and always want their children to do things he doesn't like to do. If the children treat them negatively, they will be blamed by their parents for being too lazy. Think about the initiative and diligence of children when playing games. Is that kind of concentration and devotion a lazy child can have? The reason is that when a child doesn't like to do something, he will treat it negatively. If the child likes it himself, he will be particularly proactive.

This is also the case in learning. Many teachers or parents will say that when a child's grades are not good, the child is too lazy to learn. But look at the child's performance in one of the subjects, it is very outstanding, and there is a big gap with other subjects. The fundamental reason for this phenomenon of partial subjects is also because children are very interested in one of the subjects, and have no interest and energy to delve into other subjects. For example, if a child likes mathematics since he was a child, he will be very slow when he recites Chinese texts or English words, not because the child is stupid, but because he did not take the initiative to learn. When he encountered some numbers, his fanatical side would show up, pestering his parents to ask about the units and meanings of the numbers. Parents may find it boring, but this is the best manifestation of a child's curiosity and thirst for knowledge.

In fact, the same is true for adults, you will find that time passes quickly when you are doing what you like, maybe you haven’t felt how long it has passed, and a day has passed. But when you do something you don't like, you will feel that the seconds are like years, and you have to look at your watch every few minutes, and sigh why the time is going so slowly. So whether a person is willing to take the initiative to do something depends on whether this thing can satisfy him.

According to this principle, educating children will become less difficult. For example, when asking a child to do homework, you can reach a "deal" with him, telling the child that if he can finish his homework quickly, he will be rewarded to watch TV for half an hour. Watching TV is something a child likes, which will make him Have enough motivation to complete the tasks assigned by parents to achieve twice the result with half the effort. It can not only allow children to efficiently complete the instructions of their parents, but also satisfy the needs of children.

Therefore, in the process of educating children, parents must learn to see their children's inner needs, and meeting their needs in a timely manner can have a very important beneficial impact on educating children.