These behaviors you don't agree with are making children feel inferior. Don't make mistakes after reading this
There are many bumps and bumps along the way for children to grow up. But when it comes to the question that worries parents the most, the answer that gets the most is the child's inferiority complex. Inferiority is caused by a child's character defect. If this defect is not removed in time, it will cause more and greater obstacles to the child's life in the future. Most of the main reasons for low self-esteem are caused by wrong family education.
So how can you tell if your child has low self-esteem?
1. Children are very shy
This is usually the case for children with low self-esteem: for example, at a family gathering, parents organize their children to perform a small show. At this time, children with a sense of inferiority will always shrink back and dare not express themselves in crowded places. Many parents think that this is just because the child is a little shy, but if the child's shyness is not encouraged and guided in time by the parents, it will eventually develop into an inferiority complex.
2. Very fragile
This kind of performance is mainly reflected in children's daily life. For example, in the process of playing games with other children, because they have been losing, they start to cry in grievance; Bottlenecks will also make themselves cry. Children with this kind of behavior seem to be more competitive, but in fact, this kind of behavior is inseparable from inferiority complex.
3. Too well-behaved and sensible
The nature of children is naughty and playful. If the child is usually very sensible, and the parents say nothing, and even treat people other than parents blindly, this is a very abnormal performance. This kind of child is particularly afraid of offending others, and even afraid of losing the care and love of his parents because of his own mistakes, so he will start to become particularly obedient. This low self-esteem is caused by extreme insecurity.
4. Excessive jealousy of others
This situation shows that the child has a very strong jealousy for what others get. For example, there are two children in a family, and one child is very easy to be jealous or even hate the other child. Such children are particularly prone to have inferiority complexes, because they cannot face their own emotions correctly. In this situation, parents need to communicate in time to help children correct.
5. Avoid everything that requires competition
If the child usually behaves normally in the class, but only when the class leader is selected or when he needs to participate in sports, he will start to be afraid and unwilling to participate in such projects. Children will think that this is only because they are not good at performance or think they are not good enough. In fact, the child has developed a mild sense of inferiority and is afraid of making a fool of himself.
What kind of family environment is easy to make children feel inferior:
1. Only blame and punish children
Some adults don't pay attention to their children's education, never encourage and support their children, they will scold their children loudly when they encounter problems, and even some parents will corporally punish their children. In such a family environment, it is easy for children to become less and less confident, thinking that everything they do is wrong, resulting in a sense of inferiority. Children need the support of positive energy in their growth. Correct education can not only encourage children at the right time, but also correct them in time when they make mistakes. Instead of just punishing and scolding.
2. Excessive spoiling of children
The most common situation in today's families is that parents love their children a little too much. Every day, children wear clothes, stretch out their hands, eat and open their mouths, never do housework, and sometimes even parents will help to do it because there is a lot of homework. Pave the way for the future of the child. Children in this kind of family will go very smoothly, but they will inevitably encounter obstacles in their future lives. Children who grow up supported by their parents have very poor psychological endurance, and it is easy to completely lose confidence and become inferior in one setback. Therefore, although parents are eager to love their children, they should also let their children learn to overcome difficulties by themselves.
3. Let children pursue perfection
Some parents have high demands on themselves because of their strong self-discipline. After having a child, such high demands are imposed on the child. For example, if a child paints an oil painting on a whim, the parents not only do not praise the child, but also point fingers at the child's painting, thinking that this is neither right nor that. This is very damaging to a child's self-esteem. Children are still young and many things cannot be as perfect as adults, and parents cannot treat their children with their own requirements. It is easy for children to mistake themselves for being full of shortcomings and doing nothing well. The feeling of inferiority will gradually become more and more serious.
Even if the child has a little low self-esteem, parents don't have to worry too much. What is needed in family education is the warmth and care of parents. I believe that with the constant encouragement and support of parents, children will gradually get out of their inferiority complex and become stronger.