These behaviors that you don't take seriously are making children feel inferior. Don't make mistakes after reading this article
On the road of children's growth, there are many bumps and bumps. But when it comes to the issue that worries parents the most, the answer that gets the most is the child's inferiority complex. Low self-esteem is caused by the child's personality defect. If this defect is not removed in time, it will cause more and greater obstacles to the child's future life. Most of the main causes of low self-esteem are caused by wrong family education.
So how can you tell if your child has an inferiority complex?
1. Children are very shy
Generally, there are such manifestations in children with low self-esteem: For example, at a family gathering, parents organize their children to perform a small show. At this time, children with an inferiority complex will always shrink back and dare not express themselves in crowded places. Many parents think that it is just that the child is a little shy, but they don't know that if the child's shyness is not encouraged and guided by the parents in time, it will eventually develop into an inferiority complex.
2. Very fragile
This kind of performance is mainly reflected in children's daily life. For example, when children are playing games with other children, because they keep losing, they start to cry because they are wronged; Bottleneck, will make myself cry. Children with this kind of behavior seem to be more competitive, but in fact, this kind of behavior is inseparable from low self-esteem.
3. Too well-behaved and sensible
The nature of children is mischievous and playful. If the child is very sensible in normal appearance, and the parents say what they say, and even blindly tolerate people other than the parents, this is a very abnormal performance. This kind of child is particularly afraid of offending others, and even afraid of losing the care and love of their parents because of their own mistakes, so they will start to become very obedient. This low self-esteem is caused by extreme insecurity.
4. Excessive envy of others
This situation is manifested by the child's very strong jealousy of what others get. For example, there are two children in a family, and one of the children is very jealous or even hates the other child. Such children are particularly prone to low self-esteem because they cannot face their emotions correctly. This situation requires parents to communicate in time to help the children correct it.
5. Avoid anything that requires competition
If the child behaves normally in the class, only when the class leader is selected or when he needs to participate in sports events will he start to be afraid and unwilling to participate in such events. The child will think that this is just because he is not good at performance or thinks that he is not good enough. In fact, it is caused by the child's mild inferiority complex that makes him afraid of making a fool of himself.
What kind of family environment is likely to make children feel inferior?
1. Only blame and punish children
Some adults do not pay attention to their children's education at ordinary times, never encourage and support their children, they will scold their children loudly when encountering problems, and some parents even physically punish their children. In such a family environment, it is easy for children to become less and less confident, thinking that everything they do is wrong, resulting in a sense of inferiority. Children need the support of positive energy in their growth. Correct education can not only encourage children at the right time, but also correct them in time when they make mistakes. Instead of blindly punishing and scolding.
2. Excessive pampering of children
The most likely situation in today's family is that parents' love for their children is a bit too much. The child stretches out his hands to eat and opens his mouth every day. He never does housework, and sometimes even parents help to do it because there are a lot of homework. Pave the way for children in the future. Children in this kind of family will go very smoothly, but they will inevitably run into walls in their future life. Children who grow up supported by their parents have very poor psychological endurance, and it is easy to completely lose confidence and become inferior in a setback. Therefore, although parents are eager to love their children, they must let their children learn to overcome the ups and downs by themselves.
3. Let children pursue perfection
Some parents have high demands on themselves because of their strong self-discipline. After having a child, this high demand will be imposed on the child. For example, if a child draws an oil painting on a whim, the parents not only fail to praise the child, but also criticize the child's painting, thinking that this is not right or that is not good. This is very damaging to a child's self-esteem. Children are still young and many things can't be as perfect as adults. Parents can't treat their children with their own requirements. It is easy for children to mistakenly believe that they are full of shortcomings and can't do anything well. The low self-esteem will gradually become more and more serious.
Even if the child has a little low self-esteem, parents don't have to worry too much. What is needed in family education is the warmth and care of parents. I believe that with the continuous encouragement and support of parents, children will gradually get rid of inferiority complex and become stronger.