Parents who often showed affection in front of their children and sprinkled dog food when they were young, what will happen to their children when they grow up?
There is a saying on the Internet: The marital status of parents is the child's first impression of love and marriage. As you can imagine, the relationship between parents has a great influence on children. If parents love each other, they will subtly influence their children. Then those children who have witnessed their parents showing affection since childhood will also be full of love in their hearts, know how to love themselves and others, and will also take care of their mothers like their fathers. Presumably everyone knows that Huo Siyan and Du Jiang are well-known loving couples in the entertainment circle. They will frequently show their affection in front of their children in their lives, because they think that their sons should learn to love their mothers from an early age, and they will be more loving when they grow up. Be considerate of your wife. This is also the parenting method that many couples should learn now. Don't feel shy, teach your children to be good at expressing their love.
So if parents often show affection in front of their children, what good will it do for the children?
1. If the parents' relationship is good, the child's self-control will also be good
Hugh Hartshorn, a psychologist in New York, USA, once did an experiment. The testing team recruited 10,000 children to test their honesty. It was found that those children who lived in a bad family environment, whose parents were not harmonious and had constant quarrels were more likely to develop bad habits of stealing and cheating in their daily lives. And those children who live in loving parents and happy and harmonious families show better self-control ability in life and study. When you think about it, it is not difficult to understand that when the parents are in a bad relationship, the children are full of anxiety, and tend to be short-sighted behaviors that are eager for quick success, and self-control is often poor.
2. Parents’ relationship is good, and children’s sense of security will be sufficient
Parents' love is the source of children's sense of security. Parents' love is the most precious psychological nutrition in the world. It nourishes children's inner self-confidence and firmness. Children will have a cheerful personality and good interpersonal relationships. The love of parents is the confidence and armor of children's life. Growing up in a loving family, children have more courage to survive in their hearts. They dare to realize their dreams, are not afraid of difficulties, and will calmly face even failures. On the contrary, children from single-parent families often have a sense of inferiority due to the lack of family care, and they will hide their thoughts and emotions. Also always be cautious when doing things, for fear that I will make a fool of myself and feel insecure. Therefore, the most precious wealth that parents give their children is not money and schools, but a sense of security in their hearts, so that children can confidently move forward and actively meet various challenges in their lives.
3. Good relationship between parents is conducive to the formation of children's sound personality
The formation of a complete personality requires innate and acquired conditions. Relatively speaking, people with a complete personality have a relatively healthy and happy childhood, the relationship between their parents is not too bad, there is an atmosphere in the family that is used to expressing love and concern, and they have not encountered too serious traumatic events to destroy them during their growth self worth. If a child lives in a harmonious and happy family since he was a child, he will develop many beautiful and positive personalities, which is very important for shaping a child's sound personality. Just imagine, if children are surrounded by quarrels and abuse every day, they will feel that the world is full of negativity over time, which is likely to lead to world-weary and pessimistic emotions in children. So living in a loving family is more conducive to the formation of a healthy personality for children.
So what about you, do you show affection in front of your children in your daily life?