Every child's life has three turning points. Do you really know how to educate your own children?

Studies have shown that a child's brain is already mature by the time he is around his teens. At this time, his behavior, habits, and personality characteristics have probably been fixed. Therefore, in the time before the child's brain matures, the education of the child can play a decisive role in the child's life. In the past ten years, there have been three obvious turning points in the growth of children. Parents must grasp them well and use targeted education methods.

When are these three turning points? How to educate:

The first turning point: when the child is about 3 years old, the child is very ignorant and ignorant before that, as long as he has his favorite food or toys, it is easy to be satisfied. But by the age of 3, the child gradually began to have a sense of autonomy. At this time, the child often showed self-centeredness, and would cry and fight if he didn't get what he wanted. You have to make your parents listen to your own thoughts. If you are not satisfied or rejected, you will get angry and even swear at your parents.

The emotional state of the child during this period is very unstable. So in order to keep children in good condition, how should parents educate:

1. Make the most of your child's competitive spirit

Because children at this stage are particularly fond of competing with others, parents can no longer directly tell their children what to do when giving orders to their children, but in a different way. Said: Let's compare whether your mother eats faster or you eat faster. At this time, the child's psychology of wanting to win will prompt him to take the initiative to eat, instead of asking his parents to supervise the eating.

2. Ask your child to do multiple-choice questions instead of filling in the blanks

When dealing with children at this stage, many parents will ask their children's opinions before choosing to do something. But at this time, the child will not care what you want him to do, and the child will only think about what he wants to do. So if you want your child to turn off the TV, don't ask the child to stop watching TV or not. At this time, most of the children will refuse their parents. Ask your child: do homework or wash first after turning off the TV, so that after choosing one of the options, the child will automatically perform the pre-task, that is, turn off the TV.

3. Give your child time to buffer

It is best for parents to inform the child in advance before giving instructions to the child. The sudden order will make the child resist, because he is immersed in his own world, and it will be difficult for the child to accept it if he is separated from it in a short time. So when you ask your child to do something, it is best to tell the child about 10 minutes in advance: we will have dinner in ten minutes, and you remember to pay attention to the time. At this time, when it is time to call again, the child generally does not procrastinate, because in his mind, the task has been received 10 minutes ago, and there is enough time to digest it.

The second turning point: When the child is 7 years old, when the child goes to primary school, the new environment and the circle of contact allow the child to further develop physically and mentally, and enter the second rebellious period of childhood. At this time, children want to be the master of everything, and they will talk back to their parents if they are disturbed by their parents.

So for children of this age, parents should educate them like this:

1. Give your child a certain amount of freedom

Children at this age are very active, like to play, and want to spend most of their time in outdoor activities. Parents try to give their children enough time and space at this time to let their children release their restless nature, but they should not be too indulgent, otherwise it will be counterproductive.

2. Set an example for your children

Setting an example is not to compare the outstanding achievements of some other children with your own, but to let children have a goal to strive for by means of encouragement and encouragement. This is the role that role models can play.

3. Protect your child's self-esteem

Some parents take extreme educational measures, such as accusing and scolding their children, when their children fail to reach their expected goals in exams. It is already very hard for a child to fail the exam himself. If parents continue to blame and blame, it is easy for children to lose interest in learning. And they also feel that they have no dignity, which leads to the intensification of family conflicts.

The third turning point: when the child is in his 10s, the child has entered adolescence. It is the time when the child's body hormone secretion is the most vigorous, so the child has a lot of vitality and a more rebellious psychology at this age. If parents do not master the correct educational methods, it is likely that the relationship with their children will gradually deteriorate.

At this stage, the child has developed in the direction of an adult, and has become no longer as naive as when he was a child. Therefore, parents should not treat their children in a way that they control their children. They should respect their own opinions and provide some plans and suggestions for their children to take when necessary. Give children enough privacy, and let them identify with themselves through recognition and praise, so that they can take more of their parents' opinions.

Therefore, when parents are educating their children, they must pay attention to these three turning points for their children, and use different methods to educate their children, there will be unexpected gains.