'The son takes a loan to buy a house and lends money to his daughter to buy a house', the reasons given by the parents are realistic and pertinent
Parents have always attached great importance to the cultivation of children, but each child's future growth journey is similar. For girls, when they grow up, parents don’t have to worry so much, because girls will eventually marry, which will not bring too much financial pressure to their parents, and even receive a dowry money, but the son will not It's the same. When a son grows up, he has to bear the responsibility and pressure of buying a house and a car. Parents need to help the child to complete all these things. So what should we do if there are sons and daughters in the family?
Recently, I saw a pair of parents on the Internet that their daughters lent money to their daughters to buy a house, while for their sons, they let the sons buy a house through their own efforts. Netizens expressed their doubts about this practice. The explanation given to the parents is trendy and pertinent.
1. "As a daughter, she must own her pre-marital property. In this way, she can guarantee her status in her mother-in-law's house."
As the saying goes, the daughter is the father's little padded jacket, and the daughter is the lover of the father's previous life. Of course, these words are just for fun. The purpose is to express the importance of the daughter to the father. The father mentioned above thinks that he is a daughter. He must have his own pre-marital property so that he can guarantee his status in his mother-in-law's house. Thinking about it carefully, this idea is indeed very pertinent. After a woman is pregnant, she cannot participate in normal work due to various physical reasons. After a long pregnancy, I have a baby, and I have to spend time recovering my body and taking care of the baby, so it is difficult to perform well at work, and the family expenses will continue to increase because of the arrival of the baby, so all the heavy tasks are done. on Dad's head. If women have their own pre-marital property at this time, then they will not feel very embarrassed at the mother-in-law's house.
2. "As a man, you must be independent and exercise your ability. You can't be an old man for a lifetime."
Since ancient times in China, men should be self-improving, and as a man, they must exercise their own abilities independently, and cannot become a gnawing old family. It is a very good thing for children to think that parents have this kind of thinking. When boys grow up, they should take the responsibility of buying a house and a car, and work hard and work hard for their wives, offspring and parents, just like the above What my father did, he did it so that his son could feel the difficulty of life and let him understand that everything needs to be achieved through hard work. If parents intervene too much in their children's lives, they can help their children realize their lives by themselves. If they are wealthy, children will have a long-term sense of dependence and dependence on their parents. There are many opportunities to develop their own abilities. Although this can make children’s life less stressful, they will lose more precious things. Therefore, the parents in the above lent money to their daughters to buy a house and let their sons pass To make money with your own efforts, to buy a house and a car is conducive to cultivating children's independent ability and the spirit of hard work. For children, it is very popular after entering the society.
how about you? What's your opinion on this?