The 1.5-year-old baby loses his temper and throws the bowl, the grandfather is busy protecting the baby, but the mother's action attracts angry praise from netizens
To say when a child is the cutest, I believe that many parents and mothers will answer without hesitation: the cutest is when they are asleep, because a awake baby is not only full of energy and can’t stop for a moment, but also likes to lose his temper when he is a little unhappy.
In fact, everyone has times when they are in a bad mood and full of bad emotions. Adults know how to express their dissatisfaction, but babies do not know how to express their dissatisfaction through language. parents' own mood.
A few days ago, a mother in Huaibei, Anhui Province, was angry with netizens for her tantrum against her child. In the video, the one-and-a-half-year-old baby seemed to be in a tantrum because of eating, and threw the tableware and chopsticks while crying. When the child's mother saw it, she asked the grandfather to put the tableware and chopsticks back in place, ignoring the baby's request to be hugged by the baby crying and coquettish, and insisted that the baby pick up the tableware and chopsticks by himself.
After a stalemate for a while, the baby cried and walked over to pick up the tableware and chopsticks, and then the child's mother picked up the child to soothe the child's emotions. After reading it, netizens praised the mother: "This is the correct education method, praise this mother".
In fact, tantrums are a process of children's growth. Children need to learn to properly handle their emotions during this process. How parents respond and whether they can effectively help children deal with emotions independently is particularly important.
How to properly deal with children crying and throwing tantrums?
Control your emotions
When the child continues to cry and lose his temper, I believe that many parents will also become irritable, especially when the child continues to cry in public. But this method is feasible once or twice, and if you have more children, you will naturally not be afraid. Therefore, in the face of a child's tantrums, the first thing parents should do is to control their emotions, keep calm, and not let their emotions follow their children's emotions. Calm down and solve the problem better.
- Find out why the child is angry
Children will not lose their temper for no reason. Parents should not be in a hurry to criticize their children because of their tantrums. They should investigate the root cause and first find out why the children are angry. As the child grows up, the sense of independence and autonomy becomes stronger and stronger. Maybe the parents accidentally violated the "rules" of the child, maybe the beloved toy has been lost, etc. Only by understanding the real reason can we better appease the child mood.
3, soothe the child's emotions
When the child is in a state of anger, it is obviously impossible for parents to communicate or reason with the child. Parents can accompany the child, let the child lose his temper first, then appease the child's emotions, and wait for the child to calm down before communicating with the child.
- Be considerate of your child's feelings
After the child has calmed down, don't rush to preach, and reason with the child. You can first create a common point, such as "Mom was like you once when I was a child...". The child's heart is very fragile. Parents can affirm the child's emotions and tell him that everyone will feel angry. Parents are also like this when they are young, but losing their temper will not solve the problem.
- Uncompromising
In the face of the child's crying, the whole family must reach a common understanding: not to compromise with the child's unreasonable demands. Once compromised, there will be a second if there is a first time, and the child will feel that crying can solve all problems. On principled issues, parents should be "ruthless", and they should not give in no matter what. Don't let the child feel that there is a chance to bargain, and let the child understand that it is useless to cry about many things.
Children of different ages have different ways of coping with tantrums
Babies before 2 years old: soothe, divert attention
Because babies before the age of 2 are generally not very good at speaking and have limited ability to understand language, parents simply teach their babies reasoning. read some.
Therefore, for the baby at this stage, the best way is to hold the baby in your arms, gently pat or stroke the baby's back, and gently say to the baby: "Mom knows the baby is angry, but the mother is still very angry. Love you."
By constantly repeating this action and language to appease the child, and use some toys or the surrounding scenery to divert the baby's attention, let the baby gradually calm down.
- Babies after the age of 2: delayed gratification, flexible gratification
Babies after the age of 2, especially those around 2 years old, have begun to have a preliminary understanding of the world, but in their world, they are the center of gravity of the whole world, thinking that they can do whatever they want and are omnipotent. Unmet needs, tantrums and provocations are common.
But what's interesting is that this kind of tantrum just proves that the baby's intelligence is developing, and they are not "spoiled", they just haven't realized that not all their wishes can be realized.
Therefore, if the baby at this stage is throwing a tantrum, parents can gently and firmly say to the child: "Mom can understand why you are angry, but your vexatious way will not let me compromise.
Of course, if it is some of the baby's needs that can be appropriately satisfied, parents can also adopt delayed gratification or flexible gratification to gradually guide children to learn to control their emotions and desires.
For example, the child is arguing at home and insists on snacking, but the time is not right after having just eaten. Parents can try to comfort the child’s emotions and let the child know that he has just eaten his full meal and can no longer eat snacks. He has to wait an hour. Later or tomorrow.” This is called delayed gratification.
Or when a child sees a very expensive toy in a shopping mall or supermarket and has to sell it, but it is obviously not practical to buy, parents can guide their children to choose some relatively affordable and interesting toys and say, "Wow, look at The toys next to them seem to be more fun, and many children like them! Do you want to pick one too, baby?"
In fact, children are not sensitive to price, and even have no concept, just out of pure curiosity or a little favor. Therefore, parents can use their children's curiosity to give their children more choices, and they must also meet their children's needs. , which is called flexible satisfaction.