Adult Perspective VS Child Perspective: A Set of Comparison Charts Reveal the Differences Between Adults and Children's Perspectives

Not long ago, I saw a set of comparison pictures from the perspective of adults and children on the Internet, which caused heated discussions among netizens, and because of the huge difference between the two, it also caused many parents to think. It turns out that many things that are taken for granted or incomprehensible in the eyes of the family have a completely different side in the eyes of children.

In a sense, this set of pictures does reveal the huge difference between an adult's perspective and a child's perspective. Let's take a look.

1. Jumping on the bed

Many parents know that children like to jump on the bed and the sofa when they are playing. In the eyes of parents, the bed is an ordinary bed, and the sofa is an ordinary sofa. At the same time, I am also worried that the child will have an accident when jumping. The most frequently said sentence by parents is: Don't fall on the bed and wait.

In fact, at this time, the bed is a trampoline in the playground in the eyes of the child. At this time, the child is imagining that he is in the playground and playing to his heart's content.

2. Doctor

Whether it's a dentist or other doctors, the child is almost always talking about the doctor's discoloration. When it comes to going to the hospital, every cell in his body says resistance. Parents may find it difficult to understand, because in their opinion, although there may be some discomfort in the process of visiting a doctor, it is still acceptable for long-term health.

But in the eyes of the child, the doctor is like a devil-like existence. Once he is gone, he can only be slaughtered by others and is powerless to resist.

3. Hide and seek

Hide-and-seek is a game that can be played at home at any time without venue restrictions. I believe that most parents have played it with their children at ordinary times. It's just that parents often feel dumbfounded about the way their children hide, hiding behind a window to reveal a pair of small feet, hiding a bulging piece in the quilt, etc.

In the eyes of parents, these are self-explosive hiding, but in fact, in the eyes of children, they simply think that as long as they can't see, they are hiding.

4. Walk

When parents take their children out, they will find that children always like to walk on the raised part of the road edge or on the steps on the side of the road, instead of walking on the flat road like adults.

In the eyes of the home, these raised and large steps are very dangerous, and the child is very easy to fall, but in the eyes of the child, these steps, curbs, puddles, etc. are adventures and challenges again and again, very interesting.

In fact, not only these are listed, there are many huge differences between the adult perspective and the child's perspective in life. In daily life, parents will inevitably have conflicts because they do not understand their children's behavior and feel that their children are "disobedient".

So why do parents and children view the same thing so differently?

In fact, the answer is very simple, because adults and children see the problem from different angles. I once read such a little story, a young mother likes to take her children to the mall, because in her opinion, the mall is very lively, with all kinds of shops and a lot of entertainment facilities, no child will refuse such a place.

But after arriving at the mall, the young mother found that the child did not seem to like the mall, and some even resisted and clamored to go home. She found it difficult to understand that the child was unreasonable, but because of the public situation, she still squatted down patiently to communicate with the child, but when she squatted down, she discovered the problem. It turns out that the child is still young and can only see from the child's point of view Human legs and tall cabinets in the mall are really not attractive at all.

Different heights and cognitions determine the child’s perspective on problems. Parents always stand high above the ground. It is impossible to understand the child’s heart and needs by communicating with the child based on their own thoughts. If you encounter contradictions and problems, you may try to change it. From the perspective of the child, think about the problem from the perspective of the child.

How can parents better empathize?

1. Respect children

Many parents feel that their children are still young and have no concept of right and wrong. The decisions they make for their children are based on their own life experience. Therefore, children must listen to themselves in everything, otherwise they will be disobedient.

In fact, no matter how old they are, every child is an independent individual who has his own thoughts and opinions on things, although it does lack some life experience compared to parents. But if parents do everything for their children properly, how will children grow up? Parents should learn to respect their children, let them make their own choices, and give guidance at the right time.

2. Get to know your child

Today's parents are generally dual-career families, and the task of raising children falls on the elderly. Parents are usually busy with work and rarely have the opportunity to seriously understand their children. Instead of maintaining the "absolute authority" of parents with a high-level attitude, parents may wish to spend more time with their children and understand their children's hearts.

For example, talk about the child's recent situation at school, who is a good friend in the kindergarten, what toys are his favorite, etc. After fully understanding the child, some contradictions will naturally be understood by parents.

3. Learn to listen

Many parents always ask their children to do what they want, but they seldom listen to their children's inner thoughts patiently, or rudely think that their children can have any thoughts when they are young. In fact, a child's heart is a colorful world that is different from that of adults. There are many children's unique thinking and views on things. Listening to the children's ideas carefully will definitely have more advantages than disadvantages in parent-child relationship. Of course, parents need to give correct guidance in time for some inappropriate ideas of children.