'Bear boy' cried and rolled in the street, and the post-90s mother calmly played with her mobile phone, and netizens also liked it one after another

Do you still remember how you rolled around with your parents for toys when you were a kid? To say that this is still a technical job, pay attention to the right time and place. Only when the parents are present, it is impossible to do this. There is no shortage of toys and they will be beaten. When there are relatives, friends and outsiders present, the parents will usually give in for the sake of face.

But when the post-90s who have played this set become parents, what will happen to the same approach to their children?

Recently, some netizens in Xiamen, Fujian shared a video of post-90s parents VS bear children, which caused heated discussions among netizens. From the video, it can be seen that the location should be in the subway station, and a child next to the beverage counter was splashing and rolling on the floor, crying loudly. People came and went in the station, attracted by the children's crying.

Turning to look at the child's mother, she was standing beside her calmly. After waiting for a long time, she even started to play with her mobile phone, letting the child splash around, and it was almost embarrassing to see who was embarrassed written on her face.

Seeing this netizen commented: "Children, get up, this is what your parents have left to play", "Mom: Cry, cry, I'll buy you golden throat lozenges later", "This is a standard and scientific method. , let the child understand that crying is useless, correct it once, and benefit for a lifetime.”

Although it is said that parents play and the rest is a joke, it is true that if the child cries and makes the parents give in, then one has two, and the child will understand how to seize the weakness of the parents in the future to achieve their own goals, really It's a veritable "bear boy".

Therefore, children are not born with a bad temper. They like to lose their temper and slobber. From another point of view, it is actually because of the unconditional favor of their parents.

So, what should parents do to help their children control their bad temper and cultivate their good temper?

1. Help children distinguish between different emotions

Adults know different emotions and react differently, but children don't actually understand the difference between different emotions. Sometimes a child's tantrum is not necessarily because of anger, but may be because of loss, depression, or sadness, but the child does not know how to express his emotions, and in the end, he can only choose a relatively simple way to express his tantrums.

Parents can usually use their own emotions to teach their children to distinguish between different emotions and behaviors, and to distinguish between emotions and behaviors. Simply put, it is to let children know that it is normal to have emotions, but it is wrong to lose your temper and beat others.

2. Establish emotional rules

The so-called no rules can not make a circle, parents usually set some behavioral rules for their children at home, such as: going to bed early and getting up early, not watching cartoons while eating, etc., but in fact, emotions can also have rules. Clearly let children know that it is normal to have different emotions and it is normal to be angry, but behaviors such as throwing things and hitting people are not allowed.

The rules are clear, and the children are usually strictly bound by the rules. However, parents must first set an example, and they should not punish their children excessively or pamper them when they lose their temper.

3. Keep calm

Emotions are sometimes contagious. When the child starts to splash and cry, many parents will yell at the child and try to cover the child with their voices. In fact, the more this time, the more parents need to keep calm, and only by keeping calm can the problem be better solved.

Parents can take appropriate cold treatment, just like the post-90s mother in front, don't be afraid of embarrassment to hang the child first. On the one hand, it can let the children ease their emotions, and on the other hand, it can let the children know that the parents will not compromise because of their crying, and let the children understand that losing their temper will not solve any problems, only calm down and communicate with the parents. And in this matter, the whole family must unite the front, so as not to let the mother deal with it coldly and the grandma will come out to appease the child as soon as possible.

4. Find out why your child is throwing tantrums

When the child calms down a little, parents can first appease the child's emotions, and then communicate with the child to find out what is the reason for the child's tantrum. Don't take it for granted, think how the child is, only by finding the root of the problem can the problem be truly solved. After asking the reason, parents can appropriately divert the child's attention, so that the child's attention is diverted from the point of anger. Deal with the emotion first, then deal with the problem.

5. Let children understand the consequences of tantrums

This actually echoes the previous four points. Sometimes parents have worked hard for a long time and made countless preparations to help their children release and manage their emotions, but they did not expect the children to still be unable to do it, what to do or what to do.

But in fact, this is an ongoing training process, and one of its core is to let children know the consequences of emotional out of control.

After all, children and adults enjoy different treatment. If an adult is out of control, some people will teach him a lesson and alienate him, but if a child is out of control, he may receive more care and attention from family and friends around him. appease. As a result, it is difficult for children to appreciate the cost of emotional outbursts.

This requires parents to take a firm stand, clear rewards and punishments, and through the establishment of rules, let children understand that they should not lose their temper at will, otherwise the consequences will be very serious, and they need to be punished and paid for.

Of course, if children can control their emotions well, or release their emotions in a more positive and healthy way, parents should also reward their children through some practical actions.