Wife is expecting to give birth in hospital, but husband occupies bed
I conceived in October and gave birth as soon as I gave birth. For pregnant mothers, when is the most stressful and difficult time during the ten months of pregnancy, I believe that the answer of many mothers is - when they are expecting to give birth.
Why do you say that? Because they have experienced the surprise and excitement when they were just pregnant, various nausea and vomiting in the early pregnancy, back pain in the second trimester, and pubic pain in the third trimester, pregnant mothers can be said to have experienced ninety-eighty-one hardships. Now, as long as you patiently wait for the baby to be born, you can get serious, and you can achieve a positive result. But at this time, the pregnant mothers are more nervous and anxious. This is also the time when pregnant mothers need the company and care of their husbands and family members the most.
But recently, a young expectant father became popular because he accompanied his wife to give birth. The reason for his fire is not because of how he takes care of his wife warmly, not because of his efforts to fulfill the responsibilities of a husband and a father-to-be, but because he did this when the pregnant mother needed rest and company the most. .
From the photos shared by netizens, we can see that in the hospital, the maternity bed that should belong to the expectant mother is now occupied by the expectant dad. Taking into account the mother sitting in the chair next to her.
Although the mother-to-be was holding a mobile phone in one hand, as if she was looking at it to pass the time, but the other hand was supporting her forehead, and she was obviously a little tired.
We know that mothers need rest and care most at this time, and they also need the company of their husbands to help their wives relieve stress and tension, but it seems that the father-to-be is obviously not doing very well.
Therefore, when this kind of photo was posted on the Internet, many netizens were fried after seeing it and commented:
Netizen A: "This should be the laziest husband in history, right? No one!"
Netizen B: "This is blind. I found this kind of man. Obviously, I married the wrong person. Divorce as soon as possible."
Netizen C: "If the facts are really as infuriating as this picture, then hurry up and remarry"
Obviously, the public opinion is also one-sided towards the father-to-be. After all, from the photos alone, the man really failed to fulfill his responsibilities as a husband and father-to-be.
Of course, there are also some netizens who, through rational analysis, think that it is possible that the mother-to-be has been lying down for too long and wants to change her posture, and the father-to-be is also a little tired, so he asked him to go to bed to rest, not intentionally not caring about his wife of feelings.
Let’s not comment too much on whether the father-to-be is right or wrong. From an objective point of view, when the wife is about to give birth, the husband should make full preparations in advance and put the wife’s body first. Even if you are tired and need to rest, you should arrange for your family members to help accompany you in advance, and you cannot leave your wife aside.
So, what preparations should a husband do when his wife is about to give birth?
- Prepare the delivery package
In fact, expectant fathers can start preparing the maternity pack when the expecting mother is about 7-8 months pregnant.
The maternity bag should contain the items needed by the expectant mother and the newborn baby. It is not difficult to prepare the maternity bag. There are also many lists of maternity bags worth referring to on the Internet. Prospective fathers can refer to a list and confirm it with the expectant mother before proceeding. Buy it so you don't miss anything, but don't rush into preparing these things when you're about to give birth.
- Get to know the maternity hospital and prepare the information package
For expectant mothers, once the hospital for delivery is determined, the hospital will become a "battlefield" for expectant mothers. The so-called "knowing oneself and knowing one's enemies is a battle against all odds." , production process, etc.
In addition, prospective fathers should prepare some documents in advance, because a birth certificate is required when giving birth to a child. Generally speaking, it will be used when they are admitted to the hospital. Specifically: parents' own ID cards, birth certificates, copies of original household registration books, medical insurance cards, and birth inspection records.
- Help your wife relieve labor pains
Expectant mothers will contract the uterus before labor, accompanied by labor pains, and as the labor progresses, the frequency and pain of labor will gradually increase.
In order to allow expectant mothers to relieve pain, relax, and better adapt to childbirth. Prospective fathers can learn some massage techniques, starting from the second trimester of pregnancy, and insist on giving their wives a daily massage.
Chiropractic: Let the mother-to-be lie on the ground, and the father-to-be slides up and down the spine along the back of the mother with both hands. It is necessary to pay attention to mastering the strength. If the strength is too strong, the muscles of the expectant mother will be tense, and if the strength is too weak, it will feel itchy.
Abdominal massage: The mother-to-be sits cross-legged on the ground or on the mat, and the father-to-be sits behind the mother-to-be, puts his hand on the mother's abdomen, gently draws a circle around the abdomen, and massages the abdomen with fingers.
Inner thigh massage: The mother-to-be relaxes and lies on the ground, and the father-to-be draws a circle on the inner thigh of the mother-to-be with his fingers, which can relax the perineum and avoid leg cramps.
- To accompany childbirth
Many hospitals now support prospective fathers in the delivery room to accompany the delivery. If conditions permit, prospective fathers can consider accompany delivery. After all, for mothers-to-be, they need the company of their lover the most at this moment. This will not only reduce the anxiety of mothers, but also give mothers more courage, and for fathers, they can witness the birth of their children together with their wives. The first moment is also very meaningful.
However, there are conditions for the prospective father to accompany the delivery, and not everyone can. For example, if the prospective father faints blood, he must not be able to accompany the delivery. Therefore, it is recommended that prospective fathers communicate with the doctor in advance and do some corresponding assessments and examinations to determine whether they are suitable for accompaniment.
- Do a good job in logistical support
It is also very important to do a good job of logistical support after the baby is born. When the mother-to-be gives birth to the baby, both the baby and the new mother need to be taken care of. At this time, the father-to-be must make arrangements in advance and arrange the manpower. Who will take care of the baby, who will take care of the new mother, and who will be responsible for three meals a day Wait, in case there is no detailed division of labor at that time, everyone is in a hurry and becomes a mess.