Why does my child have no friends? Parents did not do this well, no wonder children have no friends
Social needs are one of the basic needs of human beings, whether adults or children, have this need. After all, as a social person, it is impossible to leave the group and socialize and live alone. Everyone will have their own social circle, but the size of the circle is different. People who are good at socializing, the wider the circle, the easier it is to gain a foothold in society. Parents also hope that their children are good at socializing and have a cheerful personality.
This epidemic also fully demonstrated the most primitive social needs of human beings. The children have been at home for so long, and they have long been tired of staying at home. There is even a famous sentence of a child on the Internet: "I can't wait to go out and play with the virus." up". But desire is desire. When the opportunity really comes, whether the children can grasp it and integrate into everyone's circle is another matter.
Recently, I saw a video on the Internet. In the video, several children are riding a small toy car, chasing each other and playing happily under the supervision of their parents, but there is a little boy standing by the flower bed not far away. , looking enviously at this group of children, hesitant to join in and play with them, but looked down at the scooter he was stepping on, but was a little timid and did not dare to step forward.
Maybe the little boy thinks that other children are playing with toy cars that can be ridden on, but he is playing with a small scooter that stands on one foot. Bar.
In fact, from the perspective of bystanders, don't we think that toys are different? What's the matter, but children often limit themselves because of this "different". Therefore, as a parent, it is also very important to encourage children at the right time and cultivate children's social skills.
I remember seeing a news on the Internet before. A 6-year-old boy named Teddy had a birthday. His mother held a birthday party for him and ordered 40 pizzas. But what was unexpected was that 32 classmates and parents were absent from those invited that day, leaving only a table full of pizza and Teddy. From the photos taken at the scene, it can be seen that Teddy's face is full of loss, which is really distressing.
Think about how much psychological shadow this would leave on the child if it was his own child's birthday. Therefore, it is particularly important for parents to encourage their children to participate in social activities in daily life, and to develop their social skills. So, how can we help children improve their social skills?
- Establish the concept of "personal space"
Before children socialize, the first thing parents should do is to help children understand what "personal space" is. Everyone is an independent individual with their own privacy and should have a respected personal space. The same goes for children, they too are entitled to their own personal space.
Parents can teach their children to read some simple micro-expressions and micro-movements to help them better perceive the emotions of others so as not to offend others. For example, when people are dissatisfied, the corners of the mouth are usually slightly downward; when they are happy, the corners of the mouth are upward.
Let children know that by respecting others, others will respect themselves.
- Teach basic social skills
Parents can properly teach their children some social skills, such as paying attention to etiquette and politeness, teaching children to use polite language; observing table manners, washing hands before meals, not talking while eating, etc.
- Help children understand the rules of communication
Parents can let their children understand the basic social rules through some picture books, storytelling, and playing games. For example, through role-playing, parents and children can let children know how to communicate completely with other children, how to start a dialogue, maintain a dialogue, and finally End the conversation.
- Reasonably guide negative emotions
When children encounter social problems and have negative emotions, parents should avoid simple and rude solutions. They should try to talk to their children calmly, analyze the reasons rationally with children in a moderate and gentle tone, understand the cause and effect of the matter, and patiently seek solutions Ways to eliminate children's social fear.
- Parents lead by example
The development of children's social skills also requires a role model parent. Parents should also set an example to improve their social skills, so that children can see more of their parents' confidence and cheerfulness, and children will naturally gradually become confident and cheerful. There is a saying that goes well: Parents are the best precepts and deeds for children.
- Accompany and support children more
High-quality parent-child companionship can help cultivate children's confident and cheerful personality and enhance their sense of security. Parents should usually spend more time with their children, play and share happiness with them.
When children take the initiative to invite children to play at home, parents should adopt a positive and encouraging attitude. Don't worry that the children will mess up the house. Compared with the children's happiness and friendship, cleaning up is really nothing.
At the same time, parents can also often take their children to places with many children, such as parks, playgrounds, etc., to help children create more opportunities to play with their peers.