The wife is waiting to give birth in the hospital, but the husband occupies the bed to sleep. This 'laziest husband' is on fire
Pregnancy in October, once you give birth, if you want to say when is the most stressful and difficult time for pregnant mothers during the ten months of pregnancy, I believe many mothers will answer - when they are about to give birth.
Why do you say that? Because of the surprises and excitement during pregnancy, various nausea and vomiting in the first trimester, back pain in the second trimester, and pubic pain in the third trimester, pregnant mothers can be said to have experienced ninety-nine and eighty-one difficulties. Now as long as you wait patiently for the baby to be born, you will be able to achieve seriousness and achieve a positive result. But at this time, pregnant mothers become more nervous and anxious. This is also the time when pregnant mothers most need the company and care of their husbands and family members.
But recently, a young father-to-be became popular because he accompanied his wife to wait for delivery. The reason why he is angry is not because of how he takes care of his wife warmly, not because of his efforts to fulfill the responsibilities of a husband and father-to-be, but because he did this when pregnant mothers most need rest and companionship .
From the photos shared by netizens, we can see that in the hospital, the bed that should belong to the mother-to-be is now occupied by the father-to-be. Not only that, the father-to-be is still sleeping soundly on the bed, showing no signs of harm. Taking into account the mother sitting on the chair beside her.
Although the mother-to-be is holding a mobile phone in one hand, as if looking at the mobile phone to pass the time, but the other hand is holding her forehead, obviously a little tired.
We know that mothers most need rest and care at this time, and also need their husbands to accompany them most to help their wives relieve stress and tension, but it seems that this expectant father is obviously not doing very well.
Therefore, when this kind of photo was posted on the Internet, many netizens were blown up after seeing it, and commented one after another:
Netizen A: "This should be the laziest husband in history, right? No one!"
Netizen B: "This is blind. I found this kind of man. I obviously married the wrong person. Let's get a divorce as soon as possible."
Netizen C: "If the facts are really as infuriating as this picture, then hurry up and remarry."
Obviously, public opinion is overwhelmingly pointing to this father-to-be. After all, if you look at the photos alone, this man has indeed failed to fulfill his responsibilities as a husband and father-to-be.
Of course, through rational analysis, some netizens think that it is possible that the mother-to-be has been lying down for too long and wants to change her position, and the father-to-be is also a little tired, so they let him go to bed to rest, not intentionally not caring about his wife of feeling.
Let's not comment too much on whether the father-to-be is right or wrong. From an objective point of view, when the wife is about to give birth, the husband should make full preparations in advance and put his wife's body first. Even if you are tired and need to rest, you should arrange family members to help accompany you in advance, and you should not leave your wife alone.
So, during the time when the wife is about to give birth, what specific preparations should the husband do?
- Prepare the delivery package
In fact, expectant fathers can start preparing for the delivery package when the pregnant mother is about 7-8 months pregnant.
The delivery bag should contain the items needed by the pregnant mother and the newborn baby. It is not difficult to prepare the delivery bag. There are also many lists of the delivery bag on the Internet that are worth referring to. Parents-to-be can refer to the list and confirm it with the mother-to-be before proceeding Buy it so you don't miss something, and don't rush to prepare these things when you are in labor.
- Get to know the waiting hospital and prepare the information package
For mothers-to-be, once the hospital is determined, the hospital will become a "battlefield" for mothers-to-be. As the saying goes, knowing yourself and the enemy will win all battles. Parents-to-be should understand the situation of the hospital in advance, such as geographical location, various environmental facilities , pending production process, etc.
In addition, prospective fathers should prepare some documents in advance, because a birth certificate is required when giving birth, and generally speaking, it will be used when admitted to the hospital. Specifically: parents' own ID cards, birth certificates, copies of the original household registration books, medical insurance cards, and production inspection records.
- Help my wife relieve labor pain
Expectant mothers will contract the uterus before labor, accompanied by labor pains, and as the labor progresses, the frequency and pain of labor pains will gradually increase.
In order to allow mothers-to-be to relieve pain, relax, and better adapt to childbirth. Prospective fathers can learn some massage techniques, and insist on giving their wives a massage every day from the late pregnancy.
Spinal massage: Let the mother-to-be lie on the ground on her side, and the father-to-be uses both hands to slide along the spine from top to bottom on the back of the mother-to-be. It is necessary to pay attention to mastering the strength. If the strength is too strong, it will easily make the mother's muscles tense, and if it is too weak, it will feel itchy.
Abdominal massage: The mother-to-be sits cross-legged on the ground or on a mat, the father-to-be sits behind the mother-to-be, puts his hands on the mother-to-be's abdomen, gently draws a circle around the abdomen, and massages the abdomen with his fingers.
Inner thigh massage: The mother-to-be relaxes and lies flat on the ground, and the father-to-be uses his fingers to draw a circle on the inner thigh of the mother-to-be, which can relax the perineum and avoid leg cramps.
- To accompany the delivery
Many hospitals now support expectant fathers in the delivery room to accompany the delivery, and expectant fathers can consider accompanying the delivery if conditions permit. After all, mothers-to-be need the company of their lover most at such a moment. This will not only reduce the anxiety of mothers-to-be and give more courage to mothers-to-be, but also to fathers-to-be, they can witness the birth of their child with their wives. The first moment is also very meaningful.
However, it is also conditional for expectant fathers to accompany the childbirth, not everyone can. For example, if the father-to-be faints of blood, he must not accompany the delivery. Therefore, it is recommended that the father-to-be communicate with the doctor in advance and do some corresponding assessments and examinations to determine whether he is suitable for accompanying the childbirth.
- Do a good job in logistics support
It is also very important to do a good job in logistics support after the baby is born. After the mother-to-be has given birth, both the baby and the new mother need someone to take care of them. At this time, the father-to-be must make arrangements in advance and arrange the manpower. Who will take care of the baby, who will take care of the new mother, and who will take care of three meals a day. Wait, in case there is no detailed division of labor and everyone is in a mess.