Born by the same mother, why does the younger sister become a big star, but the older sister sells ramen? Parents: Respect Differences
There is a saying that there are no two identical leaves in the world, and likewise, there are no two identical people in the world. Sometimes, even identical twins have very different personalities and develop in their own directions. Therefore, as parents, in addition to proper guidance when educating our children, it is more important to relax our minds, respect the individual differences of children, and look at each child with an appreciation, so that children often get the best results. development of.
Guan Xiaotong, who was born in a family of performing arts, has become a big hit in the entertainment industry in recent years and is a household name. Because of her fame at a young age, she is affectionately called "National Girl" by netizens.
But I believe that those who know Guan Xiaotong will know that she actually has an older sister Guan Xiaoshan, but what is unexpected is that Guan Xiaotong's sister did not enter the entertainment circle, but runs a ramen restaurant selling ramen!
We know that Guan Xiaotong was very interested in acting because he was influenced by his grandfather and father since he was a child, and he has been learning acting since he was a child; but his sister Guan Xiaoshan is not very interested in acting, and her parents also respect her sister's wishes very much, and did not force Guan Xiaoshan to go to acting. Instead, according to the different interests and hobbies of the two sisters, let them do what they like.
Now Guan Xiaotong's acting career is booming and she has become a household name, but her sister is also quite good at running ramen restaurants, and she is also well-known in the industry. She even enjoys the reputation of "Niu La Yi Jie".
However, many netizens are curious: Why are the two sisters who obviously have the same background, but their life paths are completely different? It stands to reason that Guan Xiaoshan, who was born in an acting family, has such a prominent background. As long as she enters the entertainment industry, I believe she can do well. Why do Guan Xiaoshan's parents not allow her to enter the entertainment circle and become a big star like her younger sister?
In fact, this is the wisdom of Guan Xiaotong's parents. Only truly smart parents know how to respect their children's differences and teach them in accordance with their aptitude!
Every seed has a piece of soil suitable for it, and every child has his unique specialty. Respecting children's differences and identifying the individuality and strengths in each child is the essence of education.
So, as parents, what should we do in our daily life?
- Let children grow up freely
Within a certain range, parents should fully respect their children's choices and give them a relatively loose and free growth environment. It is not necessary to ask children to be the same as others in everything, and to compare everything. In fact, it is also a happy thing for children not to follow blindly. This shows that children have their own ideas, and can persist and work hard for them, with a firm heart, rather than blindly following the crowd.
- Encourage children to be their true selves
When children are doing what they like, they may be ridiculed or questioned by others because they do not fit in and do differently from other children.
As long as the general direction is correct, parents should encourage their children to persist in themselves, and let them be brave and generous to tell those who laugh at him: it is not surprising to pursue what you like, on the contrary, you can get a lot of happiness from it!
- Respect interests and explore the shining points of children
The so-called three hundred and sixty lines, the best of the best. Children who like to play the piano are good, but children who love to study machinery are equally good. Different industries have different leaders. As long as the things the children pursue are healthy and beneficial, then parents should take an active supportive attitude, and Instead of wearing colored glasses and using your own subjective consciousness to judge whether a child's behavior is right or wrong.
- Reduce anxiety
The anxiety of Chinese-style parents makes many parents themselves very stressed, and it also brings a lot of pressure to their children.
The reason is that parents have too high expectations for their children's future. The old saying: Don't let children lose at the starting line has destroyed how many parents' rationality for children's education.
Therefore, parents should realize that learning is not the only criterion for evaluating children. Healthy physique and personality are more important to children.
Parents, don't let our comparisons become the shackles of your children. Be good at discovering the bright spots in your children, respect their differences, and make your children more relaxed and happy in the process of growing up.