Born by the same mother, why does my younger sister, a big star, sell ramen? Parents: Respect Differences
There is a saying that there are no two identical leaves in the world, and there are no two identical people in the world. Sometimes even identical twins have very different personalities and go their own way. Therefore, as parents, in addition to proper guidance when educating our children, the more important thing is to relax our minds, respect the individual differences of children, and look at each child with appreciation. In this way, children will often get the most development of.
Guan Xiaotong, who was born in a family of performers, has been a big hit in the entertainment industry in recent years and is a household name. Because of her youthful fame, she is affectionately called "National Girl" by netizens.
But I believe that those who know Guan Xiaotong will know that she actually has a sister Guan Xiaoshan, but what is unexpected is that Guan Xiaotong's sister did not enter the entertainment industry, but was running a ramen restaurant selling ramen!
We know that Guan Xiaotong was very interested in acting because he was nurtured by his grandfather and father since he was a child, and has been learning acting since he was a child; but his sister Guan Xiaoshan was not very interested in acting, and her parents also respected her sister's wishes very much and did not force Guan Xiaoshan to go into acting. It is a way, but according to the different interests of the two sisters, let them do what they like.
Now Guan Xiaotong's acting career can be described as thriving and has become a well-known big star, but her sister is also quite good at running a ramen restaurant, and is also very famous in the industry.
However, many netizens will be curious: Why do the two sisters have the same background, but their life paths are completely different? It stands to reason that Guan Xiaoshan, who was born in an acting family, has such a prominent background. As long as she enters the acting industry, I believe it will not be bad. Why did Guan Xiaoshan's parents not let her enter the entertainment circle and become a big star like her sister?
In fact, this is the wisdom of Guan Xiaotong's parents. Only really smart parents know how to respect their children's differences and teach students in accordance with their aptitude!
Every seed has a piece of soil suitable for it, and every child has his unique specialties. Respecting children's differences and identifying each child's individuality and strengths is the essence of education.
So, as parents, what should we do in our daily life?
- Let children grow up freely
Within a certain range, parents should fully respect their children's choices and give their children a relatively relaxed and free growth environment. You don't have to ask your child to be like everyone else, to compare everything. In fact, it is also a happy thing for children not to follow blindly. This shows that children have their own ideas, and they can persevere, work hard for them, and be firm in their hearts, rather than blindly following the crowd.
- Encourage children to be their true selves
When children do things they like, they may be ridiculed or questioned by others because they don't fit in and do things differently from other children.
As long as the general direction is correct, parents should encourage their children to stick to themselves, and let the children tell those who mock him bravely and generously: It is not strange to strive for what you like, on the contrary, you can get a lot of happiness from it!
- Respect interests and tap the bright spots in children
The so-called three hundred and sixty lines, every line produces the champion. Children who like to play the piano are good, but children who love to study machinery are equally good. There are different leaders in different industries. As long as the things that children pursue are healthy and beneficial, then parents should have a positive attitude of support, and It's not about wearing tinted glasses and using your own subjective consciousness to judge the right or wrong of a child's behavior.
- Reduce anxiety
The anxiety of Chinese-style parents makes many parents have a very stressful life themselves, and it also brings a lot of pressure to their children.
The reason is that parents' expectations for their children's future are too high. There was a sentence: don't let children lose at the starting line, destroying the rationality of many parents for their children's education.
Therefore, parents should realize that learning is not the only criterion for evaluating children. A healthy physique and personality is more important to children.
Parents, don't let our comparisons become the shackles of children, be good at discovering the bright spots in children, respect children's differences, and make children more relaxed and happy in the process of growth.