There are these 4 kinds of fathers in the family, it is difficult for children to make a living, and no matter how powerful the mother is, it will not help
Both parents and mothers have a profound impact on their children. If parents want their children to be good people, they must fulfill their responsibilities and be a competent parent.
Especially fathers, no matter what the reason is, they must take good care of and educate their children, otherwise, the life of the children will be delayed.
With these 4 kinds of fathers, it is difficult for children to think of future prospects
- Abandoning parenting responsibilities
Children are the crystallization of the love of both parents, and raising and educating children should also be the responsibility of both husband and wife, not just any one of them.
There is a type of father who is accustomed to putting the responsibility of raising and taking care of children on his wife. The excuse is "I have to go to work and I don't have time." This excuse does not stand up to scrutiny.
If the father is such a person, then the child will lack the father's company and education from an early age. In the long run, the child's character, IQ, and interpersonal skills will be affected, delaying the child's development.
- I don’t know how to make progress and be content with the status quo
A person's self-motivation is particularly important, which is the key to determining whether this person will have higher achievements. If a father is always content with the status quo and doesn't know how to work hard for the family and the children, then it is difficult for the family to have a better future.
Furthermore, parents are their children's teachers, imitating and imitating their children, and a lazy father will also affect their children's self-motivation.
- Bad relationship with wife
The best family education is that the father loves the mother and lives in a warm and harmonious family atmosphere, which is conducive to the growth of the child.
If the husband and wife often quarrel or even make hands, the child will inevitably suffer. Looking at the surrounding examples, it is not difficult to find that if the relationship between parents is not good, the child's personality and psychology will change. Compared with other children, it is more likely to have problems.
4, pay attention to money, ignore family
Money can completely change a person's living conditions and can buy a lot of things. Therefore, many people have an inexplicable attachment to money.
If a father places too much emphasis on money and his career, and only has these things in his mind, and ignores the relatives and affection around him, it will cause serious harm to the child.
The child's view of money may also be deviated as a result, becoming money first, without the father's care and education, the child is less likely to succeed, etc.
In different periods, the influence of fathers on children?
- Infancy
At this stage, the mother spends more time taking care of and accompanying the child, and is also responsible for the feeding of the baby. Therefore, the baby trusts and relies more on the mother than the father.
At this time, the main task of the father is to care more about the child and interact with the child more, so as to deepen the baby's impression and affection for the baby. Only in this way can a normal and stable family relationship be formed, that is, the family model of the "equilateral triangle".
- Childhood
Childhood is a critical period for babies to establish "gender awareness". The task of parents is to guide children's gender identity and teach them to correctly distinguish between same-sex and opposite-sex. Psychological studies have found that compared with mothers, fathers play a more significant role in this stage.
If there are boys in the family, the father should guide the children to develop in the direction of men, and teach them to be brave, decisive, responsible, and responsible; if there are daughters in the family, the father should teach them the difference between the same sex and the opposite sex, and teach them to understand men correctly.
- Adolescence
When children enter this stage, their worship and recognition of their father will decline, but their recognition of themselves will increase. It can be said that this period is the period when children try to surpass their father.
If the father can accompany the child in a timely manner, and spend more time to communicate with the child after get off work and vacation, then the child will be able to better cope with the past when faced with the doubts, throbbing, and anxiety of adolescence.
On the contrary, if the father cannot accompany the child during the most critical period, the child may experience self-inflation and unclear self-recognition, which may affect his own health and normal development.