The first batch of post-70s gnawing elders have 'eat their own fruit', and wake up the post-80s and post-90s: don't follow in the footsteps
One of the reasons why parents choose to have children is that they hope that when they grow old, the children can provide for their own care and filial piety.
But many times, things often backfire, because parents did not raise and educate their children well when they were young, and as a result, they raised their children to achieve everything, and they turned around to "eat old" to live, making many parents miserable, even until they themselves On the day of the end of life, the child also failed to wake up, it was really hateful and pitiful.
Mr. Wang is a down-to-earth rural person, his parents are farmers. Although the family is not wealthy, the couple is very fond of their only son, giving whatever they want, even borrowing money, to fulfill their son's wish.
Unexpectedly, the doting of the parents eventually turned the child into a person who achieved nothing. Because he is accustomed to his parents' accommodating and serving him, even if he does not go to school, he is unwilling to work, let alone earn money to be filial to his parents. In this way, Mr. Wang has been gnawing on the old, and it has been like this until he is 45 years old.
Due to her old age and usually very hard work, Mr. Wang's mother fell ill and spent all the remaining savings in the family. Unfortunately, the old lady was not rescued, and finally left her husband and son, and passed away. The family is impoverished, and my father is old and can't make much money. Mr. Wang is in a miserable situation. No matter how unreasonable he is, he can't get any money from his father. It's just that he doesn't have the ability, this is really self-rewarding...
Mr. Wang's experience also reminded the post-80s, post-90s and even the post-00s, it is not easy to be a fool, harm others and yourself, and don't follow in the footsteps of Mr. Wang.
What is "gnawing the old family"?
The gnawed clan (also known as the "eating Lao clan", "near the Lao clan" or "Nite clan") refers to some young people who do not go to school, do not find employment, do not study or participate in employment counseling, and do nothing all day long. It was first used in the United Kingdom, and then gradually used in other countries.
Several types of Chinese "gnawing old people"
- Let parents buy luxury goods
That is, daily expenses do not require parents to worry about it, but things such as houses, cars, and luxury goods are provided or paid by parents, which is also a kind of gnawing.
- Make money without spending, rely on parents to support
I have a certain ability to make money, but I only spend it on myself, never on my parents. In addition, his daily living expenses are supported by his parents, that is, he eats and drinks from his parents, and his face remains unchanged.
- No money, everything depends on parents
There is also the most shameful gnawing clan, who do nothing and never make money. They rely on their parents for food, drink and Lazard. If their parents do not have the ability to make money and have no savings, such people will probably starve to death. Parents must pay attention to this kind of gnawing of old people, harming others and harming themselves.
How to avoid raising "gnawing old people"?
- Pay attention to the development of children's independence and self-care ability
Parents should focus on cultivating children's abilities in this area, so that children can have the ability to feed and take care of themselves after leaving their parents, and they will not become flowers in the greenhouse.
As for how to do it, parents can exercise their children's skills of eating, washing and dressing by themselves, and teach them to help their parents more.
- Refuse to spoil
Why is it said that many gnawing families are not worthy of forgiveness, and their parents are not worthy of sympathy? One of the big reasons is that the parents of the children are the culprits of all this, because the endless doting of the parents not only destroys the children, but also drags down their old age.
It can be seen that parents who dote on their children must be rejected, and it is unwise to harm others and themselves.
- Be a good role model for children
If the parent himself is a "gnawing family", then under the subtle influence, it is not uncommon for the child to become a gnawing family. However, if parents do not want their children to be like this, they must start with themselves and set a good example for their children, so that the children will not be led astray.