The elder sister of the dragon and the phoenix was 'raised rich' and the younger brother was 'raised poor'. After many years, the gap between the two is too obvious
The concept of "raising a poor son and raising a daughter rich" is recognized by many parents. The reason for this view is that parents hope that by raising their sons from poverty, they will let boys know how to cherish money and work hard for it. By enriching girls, let girls grow up and don't be blinded by the rhetoric and small favors of the opposite sex. And Ms. Cui firmly believes in this view.
She has a pair of twin babies. For her daughter, she always responds to her needs. Not only does she arrange a princess room for her daughter, but she also often dresses her daughter and raises her child in wealth.
But my son does not have such good treatment. He can only sleep in the guest bedroom without a separate room, and the decoration of the room is also very casual. Compared with my sister's room, one is "finely decorated" and the other is "rough room" "a feeling of.
Moreover, Ms. Cui and her husband are very economical in terms of children's money, and they have even reached the point of being stingy. The whole look is that there is a world of difference between my son's poor food, poor clothes, and land use checks.
Ms. Cui always thought that she was doing the right thing and that it was good for both children. Unexpectedly, as the children grew up, the result was not as good as she imagined.
The daughter was spoiled and outlawed, and once the princess got angry, it was simply incredible, and no one could control it. And what about the son? It is true that he never squanders and wastes money, but that is because there is no money for him to waste. Because of the partiality of the parents, the son is becoming more and more inferior, introverted, and has a quirky personality, and he does not like to communicate with his parents. At this time, Ms. Cui realized that she seemed to have done something wrong at the beginning...
The hidden dangers that may exist in materially "rich" daughters
- The child is profligate
Because parents never restrict their daughters financially, they always give what their daughters want, and parents try their best to give. Over time, money is not a great thing for children, let alone precious, because as long as they raise their hands, their parents will give them.
With this kind of thinking, the child's view of money and financial quotient will be deviated, thus developing the habit of wanton waste, which will do great harm to the child's future.
- The child becomes angry
Unlimited indulgence of her daughter in terms of money and material is also a kind of doting to her daughter. And endless spoiling will cause children to develop "eldest lady" temper, and more seriously, "princess" temper. This kind of child is very demanding and very hypocritical. She can't bear any grievances at all. When others make her a little dissatisfied, she immediately makes a scene. When such children grow up, they are bound to experience more setbacks.
The possible hidden dangers of materially "poor" sons
- The child has low self-esteem
Compared with the friends around him, the child has neither this nor that. Even the common small toys and pocket money cannot be taken out. It is impossible for the child's psychology to not fluctuate.
Moreover, children also have a mind to compare, even if their own children do not compare, it does not mean that other children do not take the initiative to compare with you. In this case, the child will be beaten to shame. Over time, in order to avoid embarrassment, children will become more and more inferior, introverted, and unwilling to communicate with others.
- Children are prone to make mistakes
If parents over-restrict their children financially, children may even commit "stealing" when there is nothing they can do. For example, some children will be envious when they see that their friends have a lot of toys and snacks, and they may steal money, which is quite pitiful.
- Conflict between children and parents
If the family really has no money, then the child may be more considerate to the parents. However, if the family's economic conditions are good, the parents deliberately "poor" the son. Once the child finds out, there will be a rift between the child and the parents. Children will also hate their parents because of this, and feel that their parents are deliberately treating themselves harshly. The closest parents do not love themselves, how can the children bear it, when they are sad and sad, there will definitely be complaints against their parents.