What is the current situation after the 11 sisters who 'supported the younger brother' collected 320,000 to buy a house for their younger brother? too sad
A peasant household in a rural area in Shanxi Province got married. The peasant household has 11 daughters. The 11 daughters gathered together 320,000 yuan to hold the wedding ceremony for the only younger brother, Gao Haozhen . The villagers took a video of the wedding ceremony and uploaded it to the Internet, causing a heated discussion among netizens. After deep digging by netizens, it was found that the married sisters' behavior was "completely voluntary". These things are really very embarrassing.
In the follow-up report, it was found that 11 sisters did not have a high degree of education because of their family's economic conditions, and the only ten sister who was admitted to a university in Beijing was also forced to give up her studies because of her family's economic situation. I chose to go out to work ; but the situation of my younger brother is completely different from that of my elder sisters. He has been doted on by his family since he was a child, and despite the poor family conditions, he still tried his best to let his younger brother finish high school, just because he failed to get into college in the end, so I had to go out to work, and instead of looking for a job myself, I stayed at Jiujie's barber shop. This comparison is really sad.
From the above situation, it can be seen that the parents have not considered their daughters at all. When the daughters are in school, the parents ignore them. After the daughters get married, they also ask the daughters to reach out to their in-laws to get money and collect the dowry for the younger brother. , let the daughters become one by one ''brother-in-law'', without considering how the daughter will raise her head after her husband's house?
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What is the cause of ''Fudi Demon''?
1. The influence of sons over daughters in the family of origin
The concept of patriarchal preference in the original family will seriously affect the children. The children themselves will feel that they should take care of their younger brother regardless of everything, but have no sense of self-care.
2. Poor economic conditions
Many such families often ask their daughters to drop out of school early to go to work because of the family's financial difficulties, to subsidize the family, or even support their younger brothers. In the long run, the daughters have developed a habit.
3. The daughter is too filial
The girl is too sensible, knows that it is not easy for her parents, and under the guidance of her parents, it is her responsibility to be filial to her parents and to take care of her younger brother. This is caused by her daughter being too filial and obedient.
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What harm will ''brother-in-law'' cause to children?
1. Daughter cannot live a normal life
This situation will become more prominent after the daughter also gets married. If a woman only supports her younger brother blindly without caring about her own family, it will put her daughter's family in crisis, and this kind of family of ''helping the younger brother'' Concepts will also be passed on to the next generation, affecting the happiness of the children of the next generation, and even unable to live a normal life.
2. The son cannot live independently
Sons are used to relying on sisters to live, which will make them lazy and inactive, unwilling to live independently, and will only blindly ask others for help. Once they are separated from the help of their parents and sisters, they will not be able to live on.
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How should parents educate their children?
1. Treat children equally
Parents should treat two children equally in life, not eccentric, but also exercise their children's independence from small family matters, especially boys, they should not be spoiled. They should learn to take responsibility for a man, and girls too. Teach them the ability to live independently.
2. Teach children how to help each other
Don't be in a hurry for the endless help of the children, but give appropriate guidance and help at the right time, and let the children know how to help each other and be grateful. There is nothing that should be done. Parents should pay attention to guiding the two children to help each other. Mutual assistance, let the children form a positive and harmonious sibling relationship.
Summary: Parents must correct their own thinking, no longer be imprisoned by the feudal ideology of "prioritizing sons and daughters", and treat children equally in life, instead of asking one to pay blindly and one to ask blindly, to understand Only by helping each other can children have the ability to live independently and go further in the future.