Grandma persuaded people to 'don't bring children to their daughters', the reason has nothing to do with the preference for sons over daughters, the reality is sad

Aunt Zhu from the neighbor's house has a daughter who gave birth to a son not long ago. Aunt Zhu felt distressed that her daughter had to work and take care of the child.

Some time before the child went to the grandmother's house, the husband and wife often called and sent videos to the child, basically once a day. Although the child would not chat with them, the husband and wife watched the doll in the video the same every day. Hearts are happy.

But then I don't know why the couple contacted their children less often. At first, Aunt Zhu thought it might be because she was too busy with work and didn't have time, but it didn't seem to be the case. Later, the call time between the children and their parents became less and less.

This made Aunt Zhu realize that if this continued, the child might not know his own parents, and wanted to send the child to his parents, but the work of the daughter and son-in-law was so busy that she had little time to take care of it. Children, Aunt Zhu, who became more and more saddened, began to regret bringing children to her daughter, and even persuaded others not to give her children children.

My grandmother advised people to "don't bring children to their daughters". The reason has nothing to do with the preference for sons over daughters. It is realistic and sad.

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cruel reality, sad parents

Although the above cases are not representative of all families, it is true that parents are too busy to ignore the relationship with their children.

Parents have a heavy responsibility. They must not only deal with the pressures of life, but also meet their children's needs for love. It is indeed difficult to achieve both, but we must not put all the responsibilities of accompanying our children. For the elderly, this is irresponsible.

When we choose to be parents, we need to take responsibility for our children and be grateful to our parents.

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How are children affected by lack of parental companionship?

When faced with a problem, if you don't have the courage to look directly at it, you will feel inferior psychologically.

Children who lack the company of their parents tend to lack love, so they may become insecure about external things, so children will have a tendency to feel inferior when getting along with friends and family, and they will not dare to communicate with others. Friends may also There are very few, and they dare not ask others for help in the face of difficulties. Such a situation will seriously affect the child's future healthy growth.

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What actions should parents take in the case of an elderly person with a baby at home?

1. As a member of the family, no matter how busy you are at work, you need to devote your energy to the family

Even if we need grandma or grandma to take care of the baby, we as parents can't completely ignore it, and we also need to give the family a certain amount of company.

The old man is the existence of the same identity as the child. As the saying goes, if there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure, we cannot rely on them too much. After all, the energy and physical strength of the old man are not as good as that of the young man. Helping us take care of the children will make them tired. We need to be more considerate to them. When we get home, we can help them with housework, even if it is just a little concern.

2. The grandmother and grandmother of the child have fulfilled their responsibilities. It is not their duty to bring the next generation. We should respect and be grateful

It is not their responsibility for the elderly to help us take care of our children. We need to know this clearly. We should not accept the kindness of the elderly to us as we should, but we need to be grateful and respect them.

Sometimes the ideas of the elderly will have a strong deviation from our ideas, and often there will be conflicts and disputes at this time. As the younger generation, we should not quarrel with our parents over trivial matters. We need to understand To understand them and tolerate them, we should give in in the face of small things, not to mention there is a saying that is good: if you don't listen to the old people, you will suffer in front of them. Sometimes the old people may not necessarily have wrong ideas.

Conclusion: The elderly help us to take care of the baby, in fact, it will be more difficult than our young people. We need to learn to understand them and understand their kindness. At the same time, we should not completely put the responsibility of taking care of the children on our parents. The children are born by us. Yes, no matter how difficult it is to raise, it is our responsibility and our responsibility.