Children like to throw things, don't worry about getting angry, parents can make children smarter and smarter by doing this

Recently, a mother shared a story of herself on the parenting WeChat group. His child Dian Dian was originally a very quiet and well-behaved child. But these days, my mother always found him getting more and more naughty. The originally neat room was also messed up by the dots. The things in the drawers and cabinets were turned over and then thrown on the ground. After his mother cleaned up the mess, he warned him not to litter, but said it several times to no avail. Dian Dian still allows himself to make a mess of things. The living room at home has become a ''battlefield'' for Dian Dian these days.

Bao Ma left a message on the WeChat group saying: I am about to collapse, and it is not effective to always reason with the child. I really don't know what to do? In fact, there is no need to be nervous in the face of children's behavior of littering, and there is no need to scold children loudly. There are various reasons behind children's littering. Learning to actively guide children can also make children smarter as they throw things. .

Children love to litter, don't get angry yet

In life, some children always like to use sports to attract the attention of others or to vent their inner emotions. And when parents see their children throwing things, their first reaction is often anger. Just like a little mother, when faced with a crying child, she loudly accused the child of throwing a tantrum, and then picked up the things the child had thrown away.

The behavior of children littering looks simple, but there are some complex psychological and physiological activities behind it. Some children throw things because the child finds it fun, holding the object in his hand like a weapon, and throwing it at a distant target. Some children throw things in order to attract the attention of adults. This may be because children are often ignored by people around them in daily life, so they want to use some violent movements to attract the attention of others. Some children throw things to vent their inner dissatisfaction, but when they encounter unhappy things, they transfer their emotions to things and vent their emotions.

When parents treat their children who throw things, they must first find the reason behind the children's throwing things, and then prescribe the right medicine. What is the reason behind the child's use of things, let's discuss with Mama Nemo!

Children who love to litter, it is because of these

1. Children experience self-efficacy

Usually children start to have the ability to throw things when they are 6 to 8 months old. At this time, they can have enough strength, they have grasping ability, investment ability and adaptability, and they can throw things in their hands far away. This is a new breakthrough for children, which will give children a sense of accomplishment, so children naturally like to litter.

When children are 6 to 8 months old, often as soon as they throw things, parents notice their behavior and help them pick them up. The child received the feedback from the parents, and the throwing became more and more vigorous. It seems that throwing things has become an interactive game between parents and children.

2, in order to meet the needs of psychological requirements

As children get older, their psychological demands are getting higher and higher. When children are able to walk, they have more range and exposure to things, which further arouses children's curiosity. The act of throwing things satisfies children's curiosity and psychological requirements for exploration.

In the behavior of repeatedly throwing things, they will find that the force used to throw different objects is different, or the distance they are thrown with the same force is different, or the sound of things falling on the ground is also different. Therefore, children feel the magic of things in the process of throwing things, and constantly discover the inner relationship of things through exploration, which can better meet the children's inner needs and make children enjoy the process of throwing things.

3. In order to vent your emotions and attract the attention of others

Studies have shown that children around the age of two will experience the first rebellious period of life. At this time, children pay more attention to self-satisfaction, their self-awareness continues to increase, and their desire to express is also stronger. However, due to the limitation of their ability, their verbal expression ability is often unable to fully express their thoughts, so they may vent their emotions by throwing things and attract the attention of their parents.

When the child is in this state, parents should pay more attention not to criticize the child's behavior excessively, and meet the child's inner needs more, so that the child can feel that he is being paid attention to. However, if the child throws things aggressively, parents should stop it in time to prevent the child from developing bad habits.

It is not a bad thing for a child to throw things, and it may also be a manifestation of the child's ability development. Parents must treat their children's throwing things scientifically in order to make their children smarter and smarter.

Science treats children littering, the more they throw, the smarter they are

1. Empathic communication to meet the legitimate needs of children

Rousseau once said: ''To reason with children is the most ineffective education. ''If it is the first time for a child to reason with reason, it may be effective for children to correct their behavior, but if reasoning for many times fails to achieve good results, then reasoning with children becomes the most ineffective education. Children understand the truth, the key is that they need more empathy from their parents.

In terms of parent-child empathy communication, star Hu Ke has done a good job, and it is worth learning from every parent. In the show "The Incredible Mother", when Hu Ke's son, Xiao Yuer, broke down and cried because he didn't get the toy he wanted, Hu Ke said to him: ''I know you want this toy very much, but now You feel a little sad that you can't take it home, but this is the rule...''When the little fish came out of the water castle and was scared and cried, Hu Ke said to him: ''Mom knows you are a little scared, but you The performance was very good, very brave, and finally persevered, right? ''When the child is emotional, Hu Ke's first sentence is not to blame, but to start with a simple ''I know'' to let the child feel that the parents accept their emotions and understand their inner feelings. ideas, so that children are more accepting of the rules.

When the child throws things, parents can learn to communicate with the child in an empathetic manner, understand the child's emotions, accept the child instead of blaming him, and even suppress him with violent behavior. The method of empathetic communication may be more reasonable than reasoning. efficient.

2. Treat the phenomenon of children littering with calm emotions

Many parents scolded their children loudly when they couldn't control their tantrums when their children threw things. But sometimes the child throwing things is not absolutely negative, that is also a stage of the child's growth and development. If the child just throws something, it is denied by the parents, and gradually the child dares not explore, suppresses his inner curiosity, and is gradually forced to accept new things.

And children who have been scolded by their parents for a long time will have a more irritable personality and temper. They are afraid of being scolded and dare not try easily. They choose to suppress themselves, and over time, they become more inferior. They are often in a passive state in interpersonal communication, and the disposition of not taking the initiative because of fear will make children more withdrawn.

Therefore, parents should learn to deal with their children's behavior calmly, actively communicate with their children effectively, understand their children's true thoughts, and guide their children to develop in a better direction.

3. Teach children how to properly handle their emotions

When children's self-awareness is gradually enhanced, their mood changes are relatively large. When children have bad emotions in their hearts, they also want to express them by doing something, and some children express their emotions by throwing things.

For such children, parents must first accept their children's bad emotions, and actively guide their children to learn the correct way to educate their emotions. Bad emotions are extremely detrimental to a child's growth, it will affect the child's interpersonal relationships, motivation to do things, and often make the child in a negative state.

There are many ways to vent bad emotions, not just by throwing things. Parents can guide children to communicate more, communicate more, and release bad emotions through verbal expression. Parents can also guide children to release types of bad emotions through sports. Only by dealing with your emotions in a positive way can you make your life happier.