Children like to throw things around, don't worry about getting angry, parents can make children smarter as they throw things

Recently, a treasure mother shared a story of her own on the parenting WeChat group. His child Diandian was originally a very quiet and well-behaved child. But recently, my mother has always found that he has become more and more naughty. The room that was originally neat was also messed up by Diandian. The things in the drawers and cabinets were turned out, and then they were thrown on the ground. After cleaning up the mess for him, his mother warned him not to throw things around, but it didn't work after several times. Dian Dian still allows herself to make a mess of things, and the living room at home has become a "battlefield" for Dian Dian these days.

Baoma left a message on the WeChat group, saying: I am about to collapse, and it is useless to always reason with my children. I really don’t know what to do? In fact, there is no need to be nervous about children's behavior of throwing things, and there is no need to scold them loudly. There are various reasons behind children throwing things. Learning to actively guide children can also make children smarter as they throw things .

Children love to throw things around, don't be angry

In life, some children always like to use sports to attract the attention of others or vent their inner emotions. And when parents see their children throwing things, the first reaction is often anger. Just like Diandian's mother, when the child is crying and beating, she loudly accuses the child of losing her temper, and then picks up the things the child throws away.

The behavior of children throwing things seems simple, but in fact there are some complex psychological and physical activities behind it. Some children throw things because they think it's fun, hold the thing in their hands like a weapon, and throw it towards a distant target. And some children throw things to attract the attention of adults. This may be because children are often ignored by people around them in daily life, so they want to attract others' attention through some drastic actions. There are also some children who throw things to vent their inner dissatisfaction, but when they encounter unhappy things, they transfer their emotions to things and vent their emotions.

When parents deal with children who throw things, they must first find out the reasons behind the children throwing things, and then prescribe the right medicine. What is the reason behind the child's use of things? Let's discuss it with Mother Nemo!

Children who love to throw things around are because of these

1. Children experience self-efficacy

Children usually start to have the ability to throw objects when they are 6 to 8 months old. At this time, they can have enough strength, they have the ability to grasp, invest and adapt, and they can throw things far away. This is a new breakthrough for children, which will give children a sense of accomplishment, so children naturally like to throw things around.

When the child is 6 to 8 months old, often once they throw something, the parents will notice the child's behavior and help them pick it up. After receiving the feedback from their parents, the child throws more and more vigorously. It seems that throwing things has become an interactive game between parents and children.

2. In order to meet the needs of psychological requirements

As children get older, their psychological requirements are also getting higher and higher. When children are able to walk, they have more range of activities and touches, which arouses children's curiosity even more. The behavior of throwing things satisfies children's curiosity and psychological requirements for exploration.

In the behavior of throwing things repeatedly, they will find that the force used to throw different objects is different, or the distance they are thrown with the same force is different, or the sound of things falling on the ground is also different. Therefore, children feel the magic of things in the process of throwing things, and constantly explore and discover the internal relationship of things, which can better meet the children's inner needs and make children enjoy the process of throwing things tirelessly.

3. In order to vent emotions, to attract the attention of others

Studies have shown that children around the age of two will have their first rebellious period in life. At this time, children pay more attention to self-satisfaction, their self-awareness continues to increase, and their desire to express becomes stronger. However, due to limited ability, their verbal expression ability is often unable to fully express their thoughts, so they may vent their emotions by throwing things to attract the attention of their parents.

When the child is in this state, parents should be more careful not to criticize the child's behavior too much, and satisfy the child's inner needs more, so that the child can feel that he is being paid attention to. But if the child has aggressive throwing behavior, parents must stop it in time to prevent the child from developing bad habits.

It is not a bad thing for a child to throw things, and it may also be a manifestation of the child's ability development. Parents must treat their children's behavior of throwing things scientifically, so that children can become smarter as they throw things.

Scientific treatment of children throwing things, the more they throw, the smarter they are

1. Communicate with empathy and meet the legitimate needs of children

Rousseau once said: "reasoning with children is the most ineffective education." ''If it is the first time for a child to reason, it may be effective in correcting the child's behavior, but if it fails to achieve good results after many times of reasoning, then reasoning with the child becomes the most ineffective education. Children understand the truth, the key is that what they need more is the empathy of their parents.

In terms of parent-child empathy and communication, the star Hu Ke has done a good job, which is worth learning for every parent. In the show "Unbelievable Mom", when Hu Ke's son, Xiao Yu'er, broke down and cried because he didn't get the toy he wanted, Hu Ke said to him: "I know you want this toy very much, but now You feel a little sad if you can't take it home, but this is the rule...'' When Xiao Yu'er came out of the water castle and was scared and cried, Hu Ke said to him:''Mom knows you are a little scared, but you His performance was very good, very brave, and he persisted in the end, right? ''When a child is emotional, Hu Ke's first sentence is not to blame, but to start with a simple ''I know'', so that the child can feel that his parents have accepted his emotions and understood his inner feelings Ideas, so that children can better accept the rules.

When a child throws things around, parents can learn to communicate with the child with empathy, understand the child's emotions, accept the child instead of blaming him, or even suppress him with violent behavior. The method of empathic communication may be more reasonable than reasoning efficient.

2. Treat the phenomenon of children throwing things with calm emotions

Many parents can't control their temper when their children throw things around, so they scold their children loudly. But sometimes children throwing things is not absolutely negative, it is also a stage of children's growth and development. If the child is denied by his parents as soon as he throws something, gradually the child will not dare to explore, suppress his inner curiosity, and slowly be forced to accept new things.

And children who grow up under the scolding of their parents for a long time will have more irritable personalities and tempers. They are afraid of being scolded and dare not try easily. They choose to suppress themselves, and over time, they become more inferior. In interpersonal communication, they are often in a passive state, and the character of not daring to take the initiative because of fear will make the child more withdrawn.

Therefore, parents must learn to treat their children's behavior calmly, actively communicate effectively with their children, understand their true inner thoughts, and guide their children to develop in a better direction.

3. Teach children how to deal with their emotions correctly

When children's self-awareness gradually increases, their emotional changes are also relatively large. When children have bad emotions in their hearts, they also want to vent them out by doing something, and some children vent their emotions by throwing things.

For such children, parents should first accept the child's bad emotions, and actively guide the child to learn the correct way to educate emotions. Bad emotions are extremely detrimental to children's growth. It will affect children's interpersonal relationships, motivation to do things, and often put children in a negative state.

There are many ways to vent bad emotions, not just by throwing things. Parents can guide their children to communicate more, communicate more, and release bad emotions through verbal expressions. Parents can also guide their children to release different types of bad emotions through exercise. Only by dealing with your emotions in a positive way can you make your life happier.