The 6-year-old boy got 'full marks' in his composition, and every sentence was full of sadness. The teacher couldn't help crying after reading it
Parents divorce, the greatest impact must be the children. Parents after divorce can find another way in their lives, and children are the only link between them. However, many parents often choose to abandon or ignore their children in order to pursue their own lives.
Recently, a 6-year-old child's "full score composition" broke out on the Internet. The title of the composition is "Lonely", and the sadness overflowing the screen is revealed in the short article of less than 100 words.
In the article, the little boy mentioned: After his parents divorced, his father reorganized the family and gave birth to a younger brother. One day, the father suggested that the whole family go on a trip together to make the little boy very happy. But what I didn't expect was that the father left with his half-brother and wife, and no one remembered him.
Although there is no word "loneliness" in the article, the 6-year-old boy is a purely objective narrative, but the lines are full of loneliness, and every sentence is full of sadness. The teacher couldn't help crying after reading it, and gave the child a big full mark.
There are many, many such children, and parents who reorganize their families often cannot take care of their ex-children. But children themselves are innocent, they don't get the care they should have, and they have to bear too many things since they were young. Many parents don't realize that not only loneliness, but divorce has a particularly great impact on children.
So, what effect does reorganizing the family have on children?
First, lack of love leads to loneliness
Parents after divorce often choose to reorganize their families and have their own children with their new wives or husbands. No matter how much parents love their original child, when a baby is born at home, they will definitely devote most of their energy and attention to the newborn baby, and lack of care for the original child.
However, the lack of fatherly love and motherly love that should have been in the process of children's growth will make children become introverted and withdrawn. Even if the children can grow up healthy, it is a lack of love for them. When the children grow up, they will not be as enthusiastic and cheerful as other children in a happy family. Those who can love others must also be loved.
Second, there may be exclusion
We have seen such examples: After many reorganized families, the new boss often regards children who are not his own as thorns in the eyes and thorns in the flesh in order to consolidate his position, and make things difficult for them. Not only do they not give care to their children, but they also exclude them everywhere, making the children's biological father or mother feel bad for their children and no longer love them.
This situation is even more serious when parents and new employees have their own children. Not only will new appointments exclude children, but children with half-parents or half-parents will grow up to know that they are not their parents' children, and they will also become disgusted with them. This puts a lot of pressure on the child's psychology.
Not every child can be as lucky and happy as Cinderella, reality is often more cruel than fairy tales. The ugly duckling will not become a swan, and the neglected child will only become more and more lonely.
Again, I can’t see my biological parents all the year round
Parents who reorganize their families after divorce must not meet often, and children who follow one party will be in a situation where they will not see the other party's relatives for a long time. Some families even prevent children from seeing their biological parents.
For a long time, children will have a sense of separation and alienation from their biological parents. Without parents, there is less love. Therefore, such children are in charge of the family earlier than their peers, complete everything independently, and have no one to rely on. Showing a maturity that does not match their age, some people may think that there is nothing wrong with being independent, but this kind of independence is at the price of the warmth of love.
Finally, it will have an impact on children's three views
The divorce of parents since childhood makes children feel insecure about love and marriage, which is not good for their future family and career. It is difficult for them to learn to let go of their psychological guards and trust each other, and they are often suspicious and suspicious. The failed marriage of their parents made it difficult for them to communicate with the opposite sex normally, and they became sensitive and vulnerable.
In conclusion, not all reorganized families result in unpleasant memories for the children. As long as the family is in harmony, even if they are not biological parents, they can live happily ever after. Being more tolerant and less selfish and jealous is the best for children's growth.