'Unaccustomed to it is not filial', the 27-year-old son sleeps with his mother, netizens: Extraordinary love

The mother is the most intimate person in the growth process of most children, and the influence on the child is also huge. The phenomenon of doting caused by parents' excessive doting on their children is very common in daily life, but there is a type of love that is also excessive, but it is different from doting, and it seems a bit out of line.

In a large emotional program, the girlfriend was distressed because she couldn't stand her boyfriend's ''special behavior'', and sought an expert to solve her troubles in the show.

The woman broke the news that her 27-year-old boyfriend still slept in the same bed with his mother ! Not only that, but the boyfriend will ask his mother to bathe him and rub his back, and even the boyfriend's underwear is washed by his mother. This left the audience stunned. However, what is even more bizarre is the boyfriend's response to this. He actually accused his girlfriend of lacking quality and lack of morality. He also said: '' Unaccustomed to it is not filial . ''It's okay to think I'm close to my mother.

The host couldn't stand it anymore, and asked the male guest directly at the scene: ''If your girlfriend sleeps with his father, what do you think? ''I asked the girl's boyfriend at once, leaving him speechless.

The boy's behavior is wrong, and the mother can't escape the relationship. Netizens all said that this is an extraordinary maternal love , a failure of education, so that children do not know how to get along with the opposite sex, even if the other party is a mother, they can't be so close in adulthood. This excessive dependence on the mother is a manifestation of mental immaturity.

So, how should parents grasp the balance between children of the opposite sex?

1. Gender education for children

Children cannot take care of themselves when they are young, and there is no so-called gender awareness. At this time, both parents will give the child meticulous care, including changing diapers, changing clothes, bathing, etc. However, as the child grows older and begins to have gender awareness around the age of 3, the opposite-sex parents should not continue to take care of them, and the other half should take care of them.

At the same time, for the safety of children themselves, gender education should be conducted with children in a timely manner, and children should be taught how to protect their privacy and learn to respect others.

Every child is pure and simple. While educating children, they must also lead by example, do not undress in front of children, etc. Heterosexual parents protect their privacy, and also tell their children to protect their privacy invisibly, and more Can make children remember.

2. Sleep in separate rooms

With the rapid development of informatization, our access to information has become more and more extensive, and children have learned more and more and become precocious. In order to fully take care of children when they are young, sleeping with children is the best care for them. But when children grow up to about 4 years old, they no longer need parents to accompany them all night, and they have a certain ability of self-control .

At this time, parents should choose to sleep in separate rooms in time, otherwise children will form a habit in the long run. Parents should let their children learn to be independent, and they are also protecting their children's privacy.

''Mom's baby boy'' and ''Dad baby''' are very popular words recently. The reason for this phenomenon is that children have never been separated from their parents psychologically and have not learned to be independent psychologically when they are adults. And at the beginning of separation from parents, it started from sleeping in separate rooms.

3. Avoid overly affectionate actions

When children are young, parents like to hug their children and kiss their little cheeks to express their love and affection. When the child reaches a certain age, the opposite-sex parents should stop these behaviors in time. It is important for both boys and girls to attach importance to the ''sense of boundaries'' of behavior, and let children learn to protect their privacy.

Heterosexual parents must remember the principle of moderation when interacting with their children . Appropriately encouraging and supportive hugs are fine, don't overdo it.

All in all, even the biological parents of the child should understand the principle of ''the difference between men and women'' and the principle of '' gender and acceptability '. Let children not form the habit of overly dependent on their parents, become independent both psychologically and physically, and become a healthy and self-improving person.