'If you can't get used to it, you are not filial', the 27-year-old son sleeps with his mother, netizens: Extraordinary love
The mother is the closest person in most children's growth process, and the influence on the child is also huge. The phenomenon of doting caused by parents' excessive doting on their children is very common in daily life, but although there is a type of love that is also excessive, it is different from doting and seems a bit out of the ordinary.
In a large-scale emotional program, a girlfriend is distressed because she can't stand her boyfriend's "special behavior", and she looks for experts to solve her troubles in the program.
The woman broke the news that her boyfriend was 27 years old and still shared the same bed with his mother ! Not only that, but the boyfriend also asks his mother to bathe him and rub his back, even the boyfriend's underwear is washed by the mother for him. This left the audience dumbfounded. However, what is even more bizarre is the boyfriend's response to this. He actually accused his girlfriend of being unqualified and lacking in morals and ethics. He also said: "If you don't like it, you are not filial ." ''There is nothing wrong with thinking that I have a close relationship with my mother.
The host couldn't stand it anymore, and asked the male guest directly: "If your girlfriend sleeps with your father, what do you think?" ''The question immediately overwhelmed the girl's boyfriend, leaving him speechless.
The boy's behavior is wrong, and the mother can't escape the relationship. Netizens all said that this is a kind of extraordinary maternal love , a failure of education, so that children do not know how to get along with the opposite sex, even if the other party is a mother, they cannot be so close as adults. Such excessive dependence on the mother is a manifestation of immaturity.
So, how should parents grasp the distance between children of the opposite sex?
1. Gender education for children
Children can't take care of themselves when they are young, and they don't have the so-called gender awareness. At this time, both parents will take care of the child meticulously, including changing diapers, changing clothes, bathing, etc. But as the child grows up and begins to have gender awareness around the age of 3, parents of the opposite sex should not continue to take care of them, and the other half should do it for them.
At the same time, for the sake of children's own safety, gender education should be given to children in a timely manner, telling children to learn to protect their privacy and learn to respect others.
Every child is pure and simple. When educating children, we must also lead by example, not to take off clothes in front of children, etc. Parents of the opposite sex protect their privacy, and they also tell their children to protect their privacy invisibly. It can make children remember deeply.
2. Sleep in separate rooms
With the rapid development of information technology, we have more and more ways to obtain information, and children know more and more and become precocious. Sleeping with children is the best way to take care of them when they are young. But when children grow up to about 4 years old, they no longer need their parents to accompany them all night, and they have a certain ability to control themselves .
At this time, parents should choose to sleep in separate rooms in time, otherwise the child will form a habit in the long run. Parents should let their children learn to be independent, and they are also protecting their children's privacy.
''Ma Bao Boy'' and ''Papa Bao Girl'' are very popular words recently. The reason for this phenomenon is that children have not been separated from their parents psychologically and have not learned to be independent psychologically after they grow up. And at the beginning of separation from parents, it started from sleeping in separate rooms.
3. Avoid being overly affectionate
When children are young, parents like to hug their children and kiss their little faces to express their love and affection. When the child reaches a certain age, parents of the opposite sex should stop these behaviors in time. Pay attention to the "sense of boundaries" of behavior, which is very important for boys and girls, so that children can learn to protect their privacy.
Parents of the opposite sex must remember the principle of moderation when interacting with their children . Appropriate encouragement and supportive hugs are fine, but don't overdo it.
All in all, even the biological parents of the child should understand the principle of "the difference between men and women" and the principle of "the incompatibility between men and women ". Let children not form the habit of overly relying on their parents, become independent psychologically and physically, and become a healthy and self-reliant person.