When the child is bullied, parents should not say these words to the child, it will make the child weaker and weaker

Children are cared for and loved by their parents and elders when they are very young. But when children grow up and begin to adapt and integrate into social life, they are likely to have many conflicts and frictions with those around them.

When we can only hold the child in our arms and can't walk, maybe we take him to a friend's house to play with other children of the same age. At this time, they cry because they are fighting for the same toy. Parents are mostly at this time. Will reassure the child to take him to play with other toys or eat snacks to distract his attention.

But when our child goes to kindergarten, if he is bullied by other children at school, our parents cannot accompany him at this time. He needs to face these conflicts alone and make reasonable and effective solutions. manner and attitude. When we learn that these things are happening, what should we do as parents? Would it be good to soothe or distract the child later?

These few words from parents will only make children weaker

• did you mess with him

When many parents hear that their children are being bullied, their first reaction is that other children will not bully others for no reason. Their children should have done something to anger the other party.

In fact, when children are young, their minds are immature. In addition to the conflicts between children, it is not ruled out that some children prefer to bully children of the same age.

Therefore, when parents question their children when they hear that their children are being bullied, it is easy for the children to lose their sense of security, thinking that they are being bullied and their parents are not on their side. It will also make children more cowardly and feel that no one cares about them.

• Avoid him next time you see him

We may feel that conflicts between children are naive and can be resolved as long as there is no contact. In fact, children have a competitive mentality with each other when they are young.

If parents blindly ask their children to avoid them, on the one hand, it will promote the psychological sense of victory of the children who bully others, so that the next time they meet their children, they may intensify or even verbally attack them;

On the other hand, children will have a mentality of avoiding difficulties when they encounter difficulties, rather than facing them, which will easily lead to no sense of responsibility in future life and communication.

• why are you so useless

When the child encounters difficulties and is bullied, he chooses to tell the parents, in fact, he hopes to get care and ask for help, and he hopes that the parents can tell him what to do.

If our parents choose to treat them indifferently and just scold their children blindly, it may lead to the same thing happening to the children next time but choose not to tell the parents and keep things in their hearts. relationship between parents.

In the process of growing up, children will inevitably be separated from their parents' shelter from the wind and rain, and they need to participate in social life with an independent attitude to deal with many conflicts.

As a parent, it is difficult to accompany your child all the time and do everything yourself. What parents can do more is to provide children with a method and ability to deal with them, so that children will not be at a loss when encountering difficulties. But the most taboo thing for parents in these things is to distrust and scold their children. How to better educate children still needs parents to explore slowly.