Dabao's humility against his will, it is easy to turn Erbao into a 'blood-sucking worm', parents should not take it seriously

Now, due to the opening of the two-child policy, more and more couples choose to have a second child. So for families with two children, there is bound to be a problem of parental bias. Although it is said that the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of meat, as a parent, I can't help but prefer the second child more, and will let Dabao let the second treasure. Parental favoritism is a tacit secret in most non-only-child households. Knowing that it is not fair to treat children differently, it is very unfair to Dabao to always let Dabao let Erbao, but parents can't control their partiality, knowing that this will have a negative effect on the child's character and psychological development Influence, it is also very easy to turn Erbao into a blood-sucking worm. For example, let's take a look at the following things!

Recently, a mother in the Baoma group shared one of her stories. He has two cute babies. When the two babies have disputes, she always asks Dabao to let Erbao and always face Dabao. Said: "You are old, let your younger brother." It is not always Dabao's fault, which makes Dabao feel aggrieved sometimes, so he has been letting his younger brother. Slowly, Dabao's character began to change. I was introverted and felt that my position in the hearts of my parents was not as high as that of my younger brother. Even Dabao ran away from home once. After experiencing this incident, this treasured mother attracted attention and felt that this approach was wrong.

Why do many families today let their children have younger children?

1. If you think the big one should let the small one

If there are only two children or even a few children in the average family, parents always want the older child to help themselves and take care of the younger children. This is a very natural idea. If the age difference between the two children is quite large, it is also appropriate to let the older baby take care of the younger baby; but if the age difference between the two children is not large, the parents still blindly ask the big treasure to let the second treasure. , so is it unfair to Dabao?

2. I hope the boss is sensible and can protect his younger siblings

Parents all hope that older children can be more sensible. First, they can be role models for their younger siblings; second, they can protect them; Heart. But obviously they are all children, why do you always want Dabao to let Xiaobao? Blindly such a request will only make Dabao increase his pressure.

How will the parents' actions affect Dabao?

1. Children will always go against their own heart

If parents always force Dabao to give up Erbao, it will make Dabao more and more aggrieved and introverted. Because they are also children, why have parents never asked themselves? I always let myself let my younger brothers and sisters, I can't tell my grievances, and slowly my thoughts will change, and it will go against my own heart.

2. The status of children in the family has declined

If parents have a clear position at home, saying that the elder brother is the elder brother, the younger brother is the younger brother, and the elder brother wants to let the younger brother, then the younger brother will become reckless, and will feel that his status in his family is higher than that of the elder brother. status will decline. In his heart, he would think that he should let his younger brother have a higher status than himself.

3. Become rebellious

When the child grows up, if Dabao gives up the second treasure, then Dabao will accumulate a lot of grievances in his heart. When these grievances can no longer be accumulated, they will burst out, and Dabao will become very rebellious. Oh, they would not listen to their parents, and would not let Er Bao. Use your own to make your parents angry, and use this method to express your dissatisfaction.

So how should parents properly educate Dabao?

1. You don’t have to be humble, but be fair

If there are two lovely babies in the family, if the parents don't know how to balance the relationship between the two children, they should tell them directly that you are all fair and that you will both receive the same love from your parents, if you share the same love with your younger siblings If there is a quarrel, it's not your fault, you can not tolerate them, but you can't take it for granted

2. Your younger siblings regard you as an object of worship, and you should set a good example for them

Many brothers and sisters in the family often regard their brothers and sisters as their objects of worship, and they will do whatever they do, so these are the older children of the parents, and the brothers and sisters should set a good example for the younger brothers and sisters, and they can lead them well. When problems arise, siblings can better resolve them.

how about you? If you have a second child, how do you usually educate Dabao? In fact, the two children should be treated fairly and justly. You can't blindly think that the older should let the younger, tell them the truth, and teach them to live in harmony. Only in this way, the relationship between the children will be closer.