Don't beat and scold the children of these three age groups too much, the influence on the baby is deeply rooted, do you have any?

There is an old saying in China, it is so good to hate that iron is not a steel stick, and a filial son will be born from the bottom. When they have their own children, every parent hopes that their children will become dragons and phoenixes in the future, become the pillars of the country, and hope that their children will have a future. , Even if you don’t have such big ambitions, you still hope that your children can live a prosperous and fulfilling life, so in order to let their children reach a higher end, many parents will have very strict discipline in their children’s education and character. There are many successful cases of this kind, but parents ignore how much damage it has done to their children's hearts. Although many children eventually succeed, they hold grudges against their parents, and even have psychological distortions.

There is a saying that parents' hands are used to hug their children, not to beat them, but many parents in life can't help but get angry with their children when they make mistakes, or even do something with them, but, you must know The thing is, even in educating children, it is necessary to be the three most important stages in a child's life in stages.

The first is the child before the age of three. Children at this stage must not be able to fight, because before the age of three is the child's psychological growth. It is normal for children at this stage to meet their physical needs, such as eating, drinking, sleeping, but unconsciously. If the child is beaten and scolded at this stage, it will not only not mention the role of warning, but will also make the child unconscious. Children are doubtful, ashamed, and even suspicious of their own behavior. From then on, they will develop a timid and cowardly character, which will seriously affect the child's psychological development. The most important thing is that children under the age of three, their fragile bodies, how can they withstand the slaps of adults? Delicate skin, no matter how light you are, it is very easy to cause injury, especially some parents like to hit their children on the head, but you must know that even a three-year-old child is very likely to have a concussion that affects the development of the brain. .

Therefore, if a child at this stage makes a mistake, the parent must first be rational. When the child makes trouble unreasonably, the parent can choose to ignore him, and gradually he will form a consciousness that there is no way to solve the problem by crying. Parents must not take a positive response to their children's unreasonable troubles. This will make them feel that their crying will be satisfied. Don't think that children are young and don't understand anything. This stage is where they explore themselves and the outside world. In the enlightenment stage, in addition, parents can tell their children that this method is not right, and slowly guide them.

Children after the age of six cannot play, because at this stage children have already developed their own sense of autonomy, developed very well, and their self-esteem will be very strong. They begin to yearn for their own efforts and gain recognition and appreciation from others. Whether it is behavioral or verbal violence, it is very easy to hurt a child's self-esteem, which may lead to cowardice, low self-esteem and low self-awareness in the future, which has a negative impact on the child's interpersonal relationship. When scolding children, children can remember their parents’ attitude towards them very clearly, which will not only form a psychological shadow in their future growth, but will also slowly grow into violent and vicious people like their parents. Experts have done it. In a test, they found that one-year-old children's imagination and creativity are as high as 96%. When they are ten years old, their imagination and richness have basically disappeared, and only 4% are left, which means that the average child will grow up. He has suffered 20,000 injuries, and this kind of injury is very large, and part of it comes from his parents.

Therefore, parents' beating and scolding can easily inhibit the creativity and imagination of the child, making the child become intimidated and afraid to explore and discover. It is necessary to know that the child at this stage can already understand the truth. If the child makes a mistake, first of all Give the child the opportunity to speak and explain. Parents need to know what is in the child's mind? Why do this behavior? Secondly, parents need to seriously point out their children's mistakes, but their emotions should be stable, their language should be concise, and they must not be chattering for a long time. In many cases, long-term education will not play a very big role in children, but instead It will make the child impatient. A short education can not only convince the child, but also keep the child's rebellious mentality. Remember that blame is for educating the child. And blame the child's behavior, not the child himself. Never blame the child's character for one thing.

When children reach puberty, they can’t fight anymore, because children at this stage will have a huge generation gap with their parents. They don’t want to be overly disciplined by their parents, they want to be independent, and they always get along with their parents in ways that their parents don’t like. Children at this stage of speaking are full of inner tension and always want to be different. In the face of such children, parents must hold back and not hit the child, because this will not have any effect, on the contrary, the child will feel that it is Trample on one's own personality will lead to stronger resistance. You must know that adolescent children are like fierce horses. The more you want to control them, the more unyielding you are, and the more you beat and scold them, the more you want you to control this stage. children. It is almost impossible, because the body and mind of children at this stage will be occupied and controlled by a powerful force. This force is the hormonal person. How can it be possible to control hormones?

Therefore, children at this stage must first adjust their mentality, less blame, more understanding and understanding, tolerance and establishing an equal and respectful relationship with children are the most important conditions for maintaining parent-child communication, while leaving a certain space for children , Do not interfere too much and invade the child's personal space.