Don't beat and scold children of these three age groups too much, the influence on the baby is deep-rooted, do you have any?

There is an old saying in China, it is said that iron is not enough to make a steel stick, and filial sons are born from the bottom. After having their own children, every parent hopes that their children will become dragons and phoenixes in the future, become the pillars of the country, and hope that their children will be promising , even if they don’t have such big ambitions, they still hope that their children can live a prosperous and fulfilling life. Therefore, in order to let their children achieve a higher goal, many parents will have very strict discipline on their children’s education and morality. There are many successful cases of this kind, but parents ignore how much damage it has caused to the children's hearts. Although many children eventually succeed, they hold grudges against their parents, and even appear psychologically distorted.

There is such a saying that parents' hands are used to hug their children, not to hit them, but many parents in life can't help but get angry with their children when their children make mistakes, and even use their hands. But, you must know The most important thing is that even for educating children, it is necessary to treat the three most important stages in the child's life in stages. It is best not to beat or scold excessively, otherwise it will have a great impact on the child's life.

First of all, children before the age of three. Children at this stage must not be able to play, because before the age of three is the child's psychological growth, the most important stage is that children at this time are immature in mental development and lack of awareness of rules. It is a normal phenomenon that children at this stage mainly satisfy their physiological needs, such as eating, drinking, and sleeping, but they are unconscious. Children feel confused, ashamed, and even suspicious of their own behavior, and they will develop a cowardly and cowardly character from then on, which will seriously affect the child's psychological development. The most important thing is how can a child under three years old, with a fragile body, withstand the slap of an adult? The delicate skin is very easy to cause injury no matter how light it is, especially some parents like to hit their children on the head, but you must know that even a light hand of a three-year-old child is likely to have a concussion and affect the development of the brain .

Therefore, if a child at this stage makes mistakes, parents must first be rational. When the child makes trouble unreasonably, parents can choose to ignore him, and gradually he will form a consciousness that crying is no way to solve the problem. Parents must not take a positive response to their children's unreasonable troubles. This will make them feel that their crying will be satisfied. Don't think that children are young and don't understand anything. This stage is just for them to explore themselves and the outside world. In the enlightenment stage, in addition to this, parents can tell their children that this method is wrong and guide them slowly.

Children after the age of six cannot play, because children at this stage have already developed a sense of autonomy, and their self-esteem will also be very strong. They begin to desire their own efforts to be recognized and appreciated by others. At this stage, Whether it is behavioral or verbal violence, it is very easy to hurt a child's self-esteem, which may lead to cowardice, low self-awareness and low self-awareness in the future, which has a negative impact on the child's interpersonal relationship. When scolding a child, the child can clearly remember the attitude of their parents towards them, which will not only form a psychological shadow in their future growth, but also gradually grow into a person with a violent temper and harsh words like their parents. Experts have done it In a test, they found that the imaginative and creative abilities of one-year-old children are as high as 96%. Suffered 20,000 injuries, this kind of injury is very large, part of it comes from parents.

Therefore, beating and scolding by parents can easily inhibit children's creativity and imagination, and make children afraid to explore and discover. You must know that children at this stage can already understand the truth. If children make mistakes, they must first Give the child the opportunity to speak and explain. Parents need to know what the child is thinking? Why do such behavior? Secondly, parents need to seriously point out that the children's mistakes, but the emotions should be stable, the language should be concise, and don't chatter long-term education. In many cases, long-term education will not play a very big role for the children. It will make the child impatient. A short education can not only convince the child, but also keep the child's rebellious psychology. Remember that the blame is to educate the child. And blame the child's behavior, not the child himself. Never blame the child's character for one thing.

When children reach puberty, they can no longer fight, because children at this stage will have a huge generation gap with their parents. They don't want to be overly disciplined by their parents. They want to be independent, and they always get along with their parents in a way that their parents don't like. Children at this stage of speaking are full of inner tension and always want to be different. Facing such children, parents must hold back and don't beat the children, because this will not have any effect. On the contrary, the children will feel that it is The trampling on one's own personality creates a stronger psychological resistance. You must know that adolescent children are like a fierce horse. The more you want to control them, the more unyielding you are, and the more you beat and scold them, the more you want to control this stage. child. It is almost impossible, because children at this stage will be physically and mentally occupied and controlled by a powerful force, this force is hormones, how can it be possible to control hormones?

Therefore, children at this stage must first adjust their mentality, less blame, more consideration and understanding, tolerance and children to establish an equal and respectful relationship is the most important condition for maintaining parent-child communication, while leaving a certain space for children , Do not interfere and intrude too much on the child's private space.