Raising a daughter, the father becomes 'transparent'? Remember that a father's education will affect a daughter's life
Many people want to have both children and children in their families. In many families, when a daughter is born, the father regards it as the jewel in the palm of his hand. He always holds it in his hand and gives everything the best.
Raising daughters, in many families, although many fathers become slaves to daughters, there are also many fathers. In the process of raising daughters, fathers become a transparent role. So what is it that makes our fathers a transparent role in raising their daughters?
The reason why fathers become ''transparent'' in raising daughters?
Then we might ask why our fathers become ''transparent'' in the process of raising their daughters, and what is the reason for this? Is it because our daughter is not well behaved?
The answer is of course not, so what causes our fathers to be ''transparent'' in their daughter's education?
- Male machismo
It has to be said that in contemporary society, there are still a large number of men who have strong machismo, and in the eyes of such macho men, having children should be something women should do. I feel that this kind of thing should not be done by men, it degrades the dignity of men, or I feel that I teach my children to manage them, and it will be shameful if they are seen by outsiders. Their machismo and self-esteem led them to become a ''transparent'' character in the process of raising their daughter.
- Patriarchal
To be honest, although the current society is constantly improving, there is still such a group of men who prefer sons to daughters. In their eyes, there is no need to give good education to girls when they are born, because in their conception, girls are anyway. In the end, they are all going to get married, so why raise a daughter-in-law for someone else?
The idea of valuing sons over daughters has seriously affected their children's education, making them a person whose attitude towards their daughter's education has always been irrelevant.
Here's another reason dads are ''transparent'' in raising their daughters
- The mind is not in the family
I have to say that many people's marriage may be due to some ''accidents'', and they may feel inappropriate after marriage, but because of having children, they will continue to do so.
Under such circumstances, many men's minds are not in the family, because their minds are not in the family, so they keep going out or going out, and the children who are at home with our children are our mothers. In this process, our Men have always belonged to the role of escape from the family.
So, the reason why the father became a ''transparent'' person in the process of raising our daughter is that our male mind is not in the family.
In fact, what I want to tell all men here is that in the process of raising a daughter, the role of our father is actually very important and cannot be missed.
How does a father's education affect his daughter?
Raising daughters, fathers become ''transparent''? Remember, a father's education will affect a daughter's life. So in what way did our father's education affect his daughter?
Let's start with an example of a father playing a good role in his daughter's education.
The well-known star Huang Lei and his daughter Huang Duoduo, maybe many people, like me, learned about the father and daughter through "Where Are We Going, Dad" a few years ago, in which we recognized a brave, independent, strong girl.
Teacher Huang Lei has always been a very democratic father in the family. He can cook and educate children at home. There are two daughters in his family, and in the education process of the two daughters, he is not a ''transparent'' role, but an indispensable role. It is precisely because of his education that both of his girls have become brave, assertive, strong and secure girls.
Therefore, the impact of a father's education on a daughter is to affect the various personality characteristics of her daughter in the future, and it will not make our children too weak and insecure.
- Make your daughter brave
The education of fathers is very important for daughters, and an important point is to make our girls brave at all times, because in the minds of many girls, fathers are omnipotent, and they are the only way to face things. Very brave, but in the process of educating our children, our father's temperament will also subtly affect our girls. Let our girls learn the courage of fathers, and this character will affect our girls for a lifetime.
- Affecting daughter's reception
Why does the father's education affect the daughter's reception? In fact, in the education process of fathers, it is the first step for girls to contact the opposite sex. In this process, our daughters will not feel repulsive to the opposite sex. But once our father becomes a transparent person in the education process of his daughter, it is very likely to cause our children to reject the opposite sex, and the immediate consequence is that they do not know how to deal with people or things correctly. .
A little girl from a relative's family is now in the second year of junior high school, but during her growth, her father has always been a ''transparent'' character, her father likes to sleep, likes to play games, day is night, night is day, go to work I didn't go to work for a few days, and stayed at home. After the girl was born, she was always ignored, and the child was always brought by her mother and grandmother. But because the mother couldn't stand her husband's long-term neglect of the family, she divorced a few years later.
The child lives with the grandmother, and the husband and wife are on the verge of flying. Under such circumstances, the girl has actually grown up without the role of a father, and even later, the role of the mother gradually faded out of the child's memory.
So much so that now the child is in the second year of junior high school, but it is really heart-wrenching when dealing with others. When you greet her, she will not respond, and she also has a sense of hatred for the elders.
Therefore, in the process of raising a daughter, the lack of father's education will affect the child's reception.
- Affect the daughter's sense of security
We all know that in fact, in the process of children's growth, it is often our father's role that gives children a sense of security, but now more and more family education, especially in the process of educating daughters, "widowed" In the face of the daughter's growth process, the transparency of the father's role often causes the daughter to lack a sense of security when she grows up.
I once knew a sister, and she said that now she is almost 30 years old, and she does not dare to go out alone. Every time she goes, she needs to find a companion before she dares to go out, not to mention at night, if there is no one to accompany her She didn't even dare to go out, but she said, because when she was growing up, because her father wanted to go out to make money when she was a child, almost as soon as she could remember, the role of her father's education was transparent. Very afraid of being alone, very insecure.