When the child is tired of learning and does not like reading, take him to three places to 'see', which is more effective than preaching
Since children go to school, they can only associate with homework and books every day, but even so, there are still many children whose academic performance cannot go up, but parents will be anxious to death. Parents know that their children are very hard and tiring to study, but there is no other way. For the sake of their children's future, they can only force their children to study hard. Children often have thoughts and behaviors of being bored and abandoning school. What should parents do at this time? ?
If you want to fundamentally solve your child's problems, you must first know why your child is "tired of learning". In fact, in the final analysis, it is because the child has not developed a sense of learning, and has not really realized the importance of learning to himself. , Parents want to change their children's learning consciousness, the first thing to do is to let children fundamentally understand who is the beneficiary of learning.
Let me tell you a case.
case
The cousin and the couple are both working class, so they put their unfulfilled hopes on the only daughter Xiaoyi, hoping that Xiaoyi can complete the turning point of her life through reading.
Xiaoyi is already in the third year of junior high this year, and she is about to take the senior high school entrance examination. The pressure of studying is also very great. Every day Xiaoyi learns to study late at night. Therefore, Xiaoyi often complains to his cousin that he has too much homework and can't finish writing. Every time the cousin and the couple think that what the children say is angry, they never think about it.
One day, Xiaoyi went out as early as usual, but two hours later, her cousin received a call from the teacher, asking why Xiaoyi didn't come to class today. My cousin was stunned. The child went to school in the morning. Why did the teacher say that he was not there? Fearing that something would happen to the child, he hurriedly asked for leave and went home to look for Xiaoyi. After searching for a long time, he could not find Xiaoyi. When she was about to call the police, Xiaoyi went home, and her cousin asked where the child went all day. Xiaoyi just said that she didn't want to go to school.
This time, the cousin and his wife knew that the child was serious, so they began to comfort and persuade Xiaoyi, "If you don't study or go to school, you won't be able to have a good job in the future, and you may not even be able to live a life as a parent in the future. , you will regret it at that time."
But no matter what the couple said, Xiaoyi still didn't want to go to school. In the end, the cousin and the couple had no choice. They didn't know how to tell the child. They were very anxious but couldn't do anything.
analyze
I believe that many children have said the same thing to their parents, "I don't want to study anymore, I don't want to go to school anymore", and most parents think that the child is joking, just complaining and complaining for a while, comfort a few words, teach the child, It's okay, but it's not the case, the child doesn't take the parent's preaching at all, and feels that the parents are just coaxing and frightening themselves, and will not make changes because of the preaching.
What should parents do if their child is disgusted with school?
A long time ago, I saw a public service advertisement. The content was about a primary school student who was tired of learning. After my mother found out, she didn't say anything. The next day, I took him to pick up junk. After a day of picking up plastic bottles, The money sold can only be used for one meal, and in order to eat this meal, I have experienced the wind and the sun, and I still smell bad. From then on, the child realizes that life is not easy, and studying in school is also a very happy thing. In order not to pick up rubbish in the future, he decides to use knowledge to change his destiny.
The mother didn't say a word, but let the child go back to school willingly, and determined to start studying hard, that is, using the power of experience to change the child's decision.
If in the process of educating children, preaching is not easy to use, then you might as well create an opportunity for children to experience, so that children can understand from practice. The following three places are the best places for children to practice.
- Railway Station
The personnel at the railway station are very complicated. There are migrant workers from all over the world. They usually carry heavy luggage and eat while walking, with tired expressions on their faces. Here you can let children know that if they don’t want to run around when they grow up, they must study hard.
- High-speed railway station
People who choose the high-speed rail generally live in the middle class of society. Unlike the migrant workers who take the train, the people who take the high-speed rail are generally well-dressed and have a “decent” job. Children can clearly see that they work hard. Only by reading can we have better development, and knowledge really determines our destiny.
- Airport
Compared with railway stations and high-speed rail stations, airports are naturally more high-end, and those who can often travel by plane belong to the "upper class" of society, and they are also relatively wealthy economically. Parents take their children to the airport to experience, so that children can see another side of society. If they want to live a better and more comfortable life in the future, they can only study hard now.
Epilogue
When the child has the idea of giving up learning, parents should not say much, but directly take the child to these three places to see, let the child see the difference between people, change the child's thinking through experience, and make the child aware The efforts up to now are laying the foundation for the future, which is more effective than lecturing ten thousand sentences.