The 70-year-old old man who 'has both sons and daughters' cried, there is a big difference in having boys and girls, and don't regret it until old age
With the opening of the two-child policy, more and more families have entered the second-child era. Many young couples believe that the family configuration of one son and one daughter is the most perfect life. After all, a good character is composed of one man and one woman. , Who doesn't want to live well, so the configuration of "one son and one daughter" has become the mainstream children's combination, but is this combination really the best and most suitable? Let's look at the following case.
case
Uncle Liu has entered the age of old age. He gave birth to one son, one daughter and two children in his life, which is the most popular group of children. However, Uncle Liu has always been influenced by traditional culture. The son is his support, and the daughter is always someone else's child, just the water thrown out.
It is precisely because of Uncle Liu's pedantic concept that his daughter has suffered a lot since she was a child. No matter what happens, her younger brother shall prevail. Everything has to be left to the younger brother. If there is a dispute with the younger brother, Uncle Liu will say, "You should let the younger brother be the elder sister." In this way, the daughter has never been full since she was a child. If there is anything fun, Let the younger brother play first, and only when the younger brother has had enough can he play.
If his daughter and son quarreled, Uncle Liu would beat and scold his daughter indiscriminately. In this way, the two children grew up slowly, and they each established their own small families, and Uncle Liu also grew old. Now, the health of the body is also deteriorating. Some time ago, Uncle Liu was hospitalized, and the situation is very bad. He can no longer take care of himself in life, and needs someone to take care of him for a long time.
In the beginning, Uncle Liu’s son would often go to the hospital to visit Uncle Liu, but after a long time, the situation would not be right. The son often made excuses that he could not come because of something. Yes, he refused to go to the hospital to see Uncle Liu, and in the end he didn't even make a phone call, let alone come to visit him. So the responsibility of taking care of Uncle Liu falls entirely on the "outsider" daughter. The daughter was afraid that Uncle Liu would not be able to keep up with his nutrition, so she changed her pattern to cook all kinds of food for her father, and she did her best to take care of Uncle Liu's daily life, fearing that Uncle Liu would be bored and chat with Uncle Liu.
After the daughter's meticulous care, Uncle Liu's condition finally improved and he could be discharged from the hospital, so the daughter took Uncle Liu into her own home for all-round care. The behavior of her daughter made Uncle Liu feel very uncomfortable, and she also felt a lot of guilt for her daughter. From then on, he would say to everyone, "Whoever says boys and girls are the same, is actually completely different."
How are filial children raised?
In the case of Uncle Liu, the son was favored by Uncle Liu, and it was precisely because of Uncle Liu's excessive favor that eventually led to his son's disobedience.
- Children must not be spoiled
For children, pampering is needed, but excessive pampering is completely unnecessary, because excessive pampering is equal to pampering. Children live in a doting environment for a long time, and it is easy to develop a willful character. They will feel that their parents should do everything for them, and their parents must meet all their needs. If parents refuse, then the children will have feelings in their hearts. Dissatisfaction or even rebellious psychology.
- Children at home should be treated fairly
Now many families have entered the era of the second child, and in families with many children, the most taboo is to favor one side and lose the balance between the two children. A child turns on the street lights, gives a lot of pocket money, and usually has a lot of things to share. Even in a fight, he has to take sides. Such behavior by parents is likely to cause conflicts between the two children, and may even lead to hatred and disgust. Only when parents provide correct guidance can they guide the two children correctly.
- Parents must set a good example for their children
Children are the mirrors of their parents, and their words and deeds can reflect their parents' behavior. Therefore, as parents, we must pay attention to our words and deeds in peacetime, let ourselves be a role model for our children, and use our own behaviors to nurture and influence children. Parents guide their children to develop good moral qualities and behaviors, which will benefit their children for life. If parents are filial, children will definitely be filial to their parents in the future.
Fourth, parents should educate their children to learn what is gratitude
Parents should consciously cultivate their children's gratitude in their daily life. Parents can also tell their children about their hard work, tell them about their work and situation, let their children know how tired they are at work, and let them know that the daily expenses at home are not easily obtained, but through hard work. Paid in return.
Only when children understand the disappointments in life can they truly understand their parents' hard work, so that children will naturally have respect and gratitude for their parents.
- Teach children what filial piety is, and let children have a filial piety
For example, there is often a situation in life, watching the child take half of the apple to share with him, but he is reluctant to eat it and return it to the child. Take things to share with parents. In fact, it is wrong for parents to do this. If the child is willing to share something, the parent should accept it, so that the child will be willing to continue to share with the parent, and will take the initiative to share the responsibility with the parent in the future. This is the initial form of filial piety.
Epilogue
Filial piety or not filial piety has a lot to do with the behavior of parents, so parents must nurture their children in the little things in their daily lives.