The 70-year-old man with 'both sons and daughters' cried that there is a big difference between boys and girls, don't regret it until later in life
With the opening of the second-child policy, more and more families have entered the era of second-children. Many young couples believe that a family configuration of one child and one daughter is the most perfect life. After all, a good character is composed of a man and a woman. , who doesn't want to have a good life, so the configuration of "one son and one daughter" has become the mainstream combination of children now, but is this combination really the best and most suitable? Let's take a look at the following case.
the case
Uncle Liu has entered a seventy-year-old age. He has given birth to two children, one son and one girl, which is the most popular combination of children. However, Uncle Liu has always been influenced by traditional culture, and the concept of patriarchy is deeply rooted. The son is my reliance, and the daughter is always someone else's child, just the water thrown out.
It is precisely because of Uncle Liu's pedantic concept that my daughter has suffered a lot since she was a child, and no matter what happens, her younger brother must prevail. Let the younger brother do everything. If there is a dispute with the younger brother, Uncle Liu will say, "You should let the younger brother as an older sister." In this way, the daughter has never been full since she was a child. If there is something interesting, Also let the younger brother play first, and only after the younger brother has played enough can he play by himself.
If his daughter and son quarreled, Uncle Liu would beat and scold his daughter indiscriminately. In this way, the two children grew up slowly, and each established their own small families, and Uncle Liu also grew up. Yes, the health of the body is also deteriorating. Some time ago, Uncle Liu was hospitalized, and the situation is very not optimistic. He can no longer take care of himself in life and needs someone to take care of him for a long time.
At the beginning, Uncle Liu’s son would often go to the hospital to visit Uncle Liu, but things went wrong after a long time. The son often made excuses that he couldn’t come because he had something to do. What happened was that he refused to go to the hospital to visit Uncle Liu, and in the end he didn't even make a phone call, let alone visit him. So the responsibility of taking care of Uncle Liu fell entirely on the "outsider" daughter. The daughter was afraid that Uncle Liu would not be able to keep up with his nutrition, so she cooked all kinds of delicacies for her father in different ways, and also took care of Uncle Liu's daily life with all her heart, and chatted with Uncle Liu because she was afraid that Uncle Liu would be bored.
After meticulous care from his daughter, Uncle Liu’s condition finally improved and he was able to be discharged from the hospital, so the daughter took Uncle Liu to her home to take care of him in all aspects. His daughter’s behavior made Uncle Liu feel very uncomfortable, and he felt a lot of guilt towards his daughter. , From then on, everyone said, "Who says boys and girls are the same, but they are completely different."
How are filial children educated?
In Uncle Liu's case, the son was spoiled by Uncle Liu, and it was precisely because of Uncle Liu's excessive pampering that the son was unfilial.
- Children must not be spoiled
For children, pampering is necessary, but excessive pampering is completely unnecessary, because excessive pampering is tantamount to spoiling. Children who live in a doting environment for a long time tend to develop a willful character, and feel that their parents should do everything for them, and that their parents must also meet all their needs. If the parents refuse, then the child will feel Dissatisfaction and even rebellious psychology.
- Children in the family should be treated fairly
Now many families have entered the era of the second child, and in multi-child families, the most taboo is to favor one side and make the two children lose the balance. A child turns on the street lights, gets a lot of pocket money, and usually shares a lot of things, even when fighting, he has to take sides. Such behavior of parents is likely to cause conflicts between the two children, and may even generate hatred and disgust. Only when the parents guide them correctly can they guide the two children correctly.
Third, parents must set a good example for their children
Children are the mirror of their parents, and every word and deed of a child can reflect the behavior of the parents, so as a parent, you must pay attention to your own words and deeds, let yourself be a role model for your children, and use your behavior to nurture and influence your children. Parents guide their children to develop good moral qualities and behaviors, which will benefit the children for life. If the parents are filial, the children will definitely be filial to their parents after seeing them.
- Parents should teach their children what is gratitude
Parents should consciously cultivate their children's gratitude in their daily life. Parents can also tell their children about their hard work, tell them about their work and situation, let the children know how tired they are at work, and let the children know that the daily expenses at home are not easy to obtain, all through hard work Pay in exchange for it.
Only when children understand the unsatisfactory life, can they truly understand the hard work of their parents, so that children will naturally develop respect and gratitude for their parents.
- Teach children what filial piety is, let them have a filial heart
For example, there is often a situation in life. I see a child holding half of an apple to share with me, but I am reluctant to eat it and give it back to the child. As a result, I walk away disappointed. After a long time, the child will not be Take something to share with your parents. In fact, it is wrong for parents to do this. If children are willing to share things, parents should accept it. Only then will children be willing to continue sharing with parents, and will be willing to take the initiative to share responsibilities with parents in the future. This is the initial form of filial piety.
Epilogue
Whether a child is filial or not has a lot to do with the behavior of the parents, so parents must nurture their children in every detail of daily life.