Taking care of my grandson for 3 years, one hair made the old man regret: no matter how busy I am at home, I will not help my daughter with the baby

In the past two years, there has been a very popular saying that "grandma takes care of the baby, and grandma watches", which means that it is common in families that grandma is here to help with the children, and it is rare for grandma to take care of the baby. Such a choice seems to be It is very good for both families. After all, grandma and mother have dislikes when they take care of the baby. You can say it directly without holding it in your heart, and it will not cause family conflicts due to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

But is this really the best option? After all, people are independent individuals with independent thoughts and behaviors. If there is no communication, no one will know what other people think, so not all grandmas and children can be so harmonious. Not all grandmas can understand the difficulty of their daughters, and not all daughters can understand the hard work of grandmas, and the relationship between mother and daughter may also fall apart because of bringing a baby, just like the following case.

the case

Grandma Zhang in the community told about the past three years when she took care of her daughter. The expressions on her face and the words she spoke revealed full of regret. Grandma Zhang helped her daughter to take care of the children in the past. It was a bitter time. Grandma Zhang told me firmly, "Even if I retire and have too much time at home, I will not take care of the children."

Four years ago, Grandma Zhang’s daughter, Xiao Min, couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law, so she begged Grandma Zhang to go to her house to help her take care of the child. The daughter said that not only would she be able to see her mother every day, but she would also be able to rest assured that she would take care of the child. . Grandma Zhang was also very happy and happy at first. She packed her luggage and moved to her daughter's house. It was only after she moved in that she realized that things were not that simple. She also found out the reason why her daughter said she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law.

Grandma Zhang's daughter is very ambitious. She has been working hard for her career from graduation to marriage. She didn't have a child until she was 35 years old. The baby's affairs have always been very meticulous. I made a feeding table for the child. What time do I give the child breastfeeding, water feeding, supplementary food, and nutritional supplements every day, and each item must strictly follow the above time. And Also sign in and open. In addition, all utensils for children must be disinfected regularly, and clothes must be sorted and cleaned. There are even standards and requirements for the method of holding a child.

The content and requirements of this item made Grandma Zhang dumbfounded. How can this be life? Isn’t this a scientific experiment? The daughter also said to Grandma Zhang, "Mom, I am most at ease if you help me take care of the child. You Just follow the requirements, I finally have a child at such an old age, so I must raise it meticulously."

After all, the daughter is her own. Even if the mother-in-law can't stand her daughter's behavior, the mother has to bear with it and help her to the end. Grandma Zhang also has a mirror in her heart. Her daughter is unwilling to help anyone now. If she doesn’t reach out to help, the child will definitely hire a nanny. Not to mention wasting money, her daughter Xiao Min may not be satisfied and relieved, so Grandma Zhang Just put your mind to one side, at worst, I will change whatever my daughter says.

But after all, Grandma Zhang is already old, and her memory has begun to deteriorate, and her physical condition has also begun to decline, and she often forgets things. One day when Xiao Min was eating, she found a hair in the dish, and she knew that it must be Grandma Zhang who was cooking without wearing a hat, which was so unhygienic. Very angry, he slapped the job bowl in Grandma Zhang's hand when he went up, and angrily scolded Grandma Zhang, "How do you cook? There is hair in it. You feed the child this kind of food." After speaking, he picked up the child I went back to the house, regardless of Grandma Zhang's embarrassment at the time.

Grandma Zhang never thought that even if her daughter was the most angry, she would speak harshly. She never thought that her daughter could actually do it. Grandma Zhang was very sad and disappointed. The 37-year mother-daughter relationship was ruined because of a single hair. The daughter only knew that there was a hair in the meal, but she had no idea that her mother endured the pain in her waist and legs to make it. A table of meals.

Grandma Zhang regretted that she had brought her daughter a child for three years. The next day, Grandma Zhang packed her luggage and bought a ticket to go home, and decided that no matter what, she would not bring her daughter any more children.

Grandma Zhang endured for three years and obeyed her daughter's words. Is she really afraid of her daughter?

In fact, Grandma Zhang is not afraid of her daughter at all. It is precisely because of her love for her daughter that she loves the hard work of the child and is afraid that if no one helps the child, the child will work even harder. I once heard this sentence in "The Reader" "In the world, parents fear their children not because they are afraid, but because they love them."

Grandma Zhang traveled thousands of miles to help her daughter take care of the child. She worked hard and was tired. She also worried that what she did would make the child dissatisfied and be blamed and blamed by the child. If it were a mother-in-law, no matter how good-tempered she was, she would definitely not be so willing. If you were a mother-in-law and found hair in the dish, would she reach out and slap her? The answer is definitely no, and I will definitely bear it in my heart, and then carefully consider how to say it, and solve the matter without hurting the peace.

However, Xiao Min relied on Grandma Zhang being her own mother, and relying on Grandma Zhang's love and tolerance for her, she did such a violent behavior, which proved that she only had the child she beat in her heart, and she had no mother at all. How much harm this is to a hard-working mother.

Grandma Zhang said that her daughter hired several nannies, but none of them worked for long. In the end, no one was willing to work in her house, so she begged Grandma Zhang to go back, but Grandma Zhang refused. But in fact, Grandma Zhang has already brought the child to the age of 3 and went to kindergarten. It is not so tiring to bring her daughter up. Even if Grandma Zhang really doesn't care about anything, her daughter can handle it by herself.

In fact, when the elderly are old, the greatest hope is that their children can live well, and the elderly have been worrying about their children all their lives, and it is time for others to take care of them. The most important thing for children is to spend more time with the elderly and let them enjoy their children and grandchildren. Full of happiness.