Eating old and new 'patterns'? The old couple is bitten once a week, implying that the children 'don't come'
When people reach their old age, they will start to be particularly nostalgic for family relationships. When parents are in their old age, what they want most is to have children around them. Even if the children are adults and start a family, they also hope to come back to accompany them often.
If the child can go home, the old man will definitely be busy giving the child food and drink, and will definitely cook the child's favorite meal, but there is an old man who is completely the opposite and doesn't want the child to go home at all. Come and see for yourself, what's going on? Let's take a look.
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Why did Uncle Zhang appeal to his children not to go home to visit? Uncle Zhang and his wife have a son and a daughter, and they are all married and have their own children after marriage. Uncle Zhang's children are very filial, and they will take their children home every week to visit the old couple.
Every time the children would arrive at home before lunch, in order to welcome the arrival of the children, Uncle Zhang and his wife would get up early and start working to prepare lunch for the children. After the children finished their lunch, the old couple had to clean up the dishes and the table again, and it took a long time to clean up, and when they had lunch, the old couple had to feed their grandchildren, each time they had to feed their children. You can only start eating by yourself, and sometimes even after the child is finally fed, the food is already cold by the time you eat it.
After the children returned home, it was not as they imagined, the three generations lived in the same house and were beautiful and beautiful, talking and chatting. The children did their own things, and gave their children to Uncle Zhang and his wife to bring them. Uncle Zhang and his wife were exhausted at the end of the day, and they were exhausted for several days.
So Uncle Zhang and his wife discussed that it would be better not to let the children visit again. His wife also wanted to, so Uncle Zhang told the children, "You are all very busy. If you don't have time, you don't have to come every week."
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In fact, Uncle Zhang's sons and daughters showed a new style of gnawing at the old, and it was also a way of gnawing the old with filial piety. Everyone believed that gnawing the old was taking care of the old and asking for money, and relying on the old to support them. How come home on time to visit has become a gnawing old man?
Eating old ways to appear new, holding arrows of filial piety
In fact, it is not only the financial assistance of the elderly, but now there is a new type of cuddling, which uses filial piety as a shield, so that the elderly have no way to refuse, but it makes the elderly even more physically and mentally exhausted, just like Uncle Zhang's sons and daughters In the same way, although I come to visit every week, this is definitely a very filial act in the eyes of outsiders, and there must be many people who see it in their eyes and feel bitter in their hearts.
But in fact, Uncle Zhang's sons and daughters threw their children to Uncle Zhang and his wife as a matter of course. The child does not have a moment of rest a day for feeding, and the body will definitely be unable to bear it after a long time.
What new ways are there to chew on the old?
- Let the elderly help with the children
Some children often take their children to visit the elderly, and at the same time directly throw the children to the elderly, and they don't care at all. The old man worked hard to bring his grandson and granddaughter here, but the children were doing what they liked, sleeping, playing with mobile phones, and watching dramas, so they should have come to visit the old man, but instead they sent the children to the old man. bring.
- Let your parents entertain you
Children go home to visit the elderly, the elderly must be very happy, and they are willing to prepare a table of good meals for their children, but children can’t watch the elderly busy themselves without helping them, even after eating. When cleaning up, he seems to regard himself as a guest rather than a family member. The old man is busy with hard work, but has no time to really talk to his children. It is inevitable that he will be tired and sad.
As a child, how should we avoid the new style of gnawing on the old?
- As a child, you should try your best not to cause trouble to the elderly
As a child, I have the obligation to visit the elderly often, but it is not to cause trouble for the elderly. The elderly will take the initiative to cook if the children are happy when they return home. It is also a kind of happiness that the elderly can talk to their children in the process of cooking, and feel the long-lost parent-child time again. This is also a kind of happiness and the expectation of parents.
Children should take the initiative to undertake housework, so that the elderly can have time to enjoy the joy of family for three generations.
- Make your visit meaningful
Visiting the elderly does not mean that the person can arrive, but to really care about the life of the elderly, care for the heart of the elderly, understand the physical condition of the elderly, communicate with the elderly, and increase the happiness of the elderly.
Epilogue
It is naturally a joy and happiness that children can often visit the elderly, but children must also avoid the misunderstanding of gnawing on the elderly, so that the elderly can truly feel the communication between parents and children and the joy of family relationships, and can truly Relaxing mood soothes the spirit.