'You are the elder sister, so you should let the younger sister.' The child's answer made the mother very embarrassed
Since the opening of the second child, many families have changed from the only child to a second child family. I saw such a second child family when I was shopping a few days ago. There are two girls, a sister and a sister, the sister and the mother. The dialogue is thought provoking.
Mom and dad took their two daughters to the mall. When the family went to the toy area, the younger sister and elder sister saw the dolls they liked at the same time, but there were only two dolls left, one pink and one orange, and the mother took the initiative to stand up and tell the elder sister' 'You are the elder sister, let the younger sister choose, let the younger sister choose first. "As soon as my sister heard it, she asked her to choose first. My sister chose orange, and she got a pink doll. But after a while, my sister was clamoring for her pink doll. My sister didn't want it at this time. She insisted. When I asked for my own pink doll, my sister burst into tears when she was unhappy. When my mother saw this, she told her sister, ''You are a sister, let me give you a little sister. Anyway, the two are the same.'' Then the sister said to her mother: ''I am my elder sister, but you are my mother. You should also be reasonable. I just let my younger sister make her own choice. Why is she so self-willed? Is it just because she is crying?'' Mom heard it immediately. My face is red, yes! My elder sister is also my own child, and I have inadvertently favored my younger sister!
Families with two children will inevitably encounter such problems. Although parents have worked very hard to make the children live in harmony, there is still a sense of letting the big let the small. This is actually a kind of partiality. The gains outweigh the losses, and many parents are also troubled by this, so what should parents do when faced with such a problem? Take a look at the following points.
1. Love each other and lay the foundation
Parents should gradually guide their children from ordinary life, create a good family environment for their children, and show a lot of love to each other in front of their children, so that the children can feel the warmth and care of the family, and let the children understand the true nature of the family. Meaning, laying a good foundation for mutual love can better cultivate the emotions between children, and promote children to live in harmony and help each other.
2. Independent resolution of conflicts is the key
In the process of cultivating children, we must teach children how to solve conflicts independently. Children will inevitably have many conflicts in the process of growing up. When facing conflicts, children should be allowed to take the initiative to reconcile themselves, and parents should guide their children at appropriate times. , to believe that their children can handle and resolve conflicts independently.
3. The elder and the younger are orderly and harmonious
As the saying goes, the state-owned country has family rules, and the children in the family are divided into eldest brothers from birth. In people's traditional thinking, the older children are often made to be polite to the younger ones, but this kind of courtesy is mutual, and it is necessary to let the older children. Understand your responsibility as an elder brother, you should be courteous to your younger siblings in life, and consciously protect and care for your younger siblings. Parents should also let the younger children in the family understand that elder brother's courtesy is not for granted. This is based on family People’s kinship is the reason why they are courteous, and they should be grateful to their family members with a grateful heart, so as to better promote the harmonious and harmonious coexistence of the family!
I believe that parents have a deeper understanding of how to deal with the problem of how two children get along in harmony, so what about you? What's your opinion on this?