The elder brother didn't buy toys for the younger brother, but the younger brother blurted out a sentence that left the elder brother speechless.

Many families with two children have a similar problem. Before the second child was born, the eldest was very well-behaved and sensible. Since the birth of the second child, his personality has undergone a huge change. He began to lose his temper and get along with his younger siblings very unhappy. This situation has gradually increased with the liberalization of the two-child policy. Many parents have been looking for an answer to the question of harmony between two children.

When a person is disappointed in you, he will try his best to shout a word of despair to your last friendship. I found a distressing clip on many online video platforms. But it's not about love but the emotional line between two brothers. The younger brother in the video looks aggrieved, tearfully looking up at his elder brother who is much taller than him. Shout out "You scumbag" in the most desperate tone. No matter how much his brother pleases him, he won't buy it at all. Pushing him away with his hands is his last stubbornness. Even if the older brother said "I'll get you the schoolbag", he couldn't get back the broken heart of the younger brother. What made my brother so sad? It turned out that the older brother didn't buy toys for the younger brother, and the younger brother felt an indescribable pain in his heart when he saw the empty-handed elder brother.

In addition to expressing distress, many netizens still did not forget to tease, "It looks like that humble love." "It should be because the brother promised and failed, so the younger brother is so sad." "My younger brother is so cute, I feel distressed for five seconds. "Such occasional squabbles can be a regular occurrence for some families. What should I do when there is a small noise for three days and a big noise for five days.

The reason for the unfriendly attitude between the two children, especially the elder one towards the second child, may be as follows:

1: The boss has a sense of security crisis

Many children were the treasures of the family before they had younger siblings. Everyone in the family revolves around me, but suddenly there is a kid who is more popular than me, the boss will have a strong psychological gap, feel that he is left out, think that the parents don't love me anymore, and don't want to play with him . Therefore, there will be a lack of security in the heart, so there will be inner rejection and hatred for the second child.

2: Parents like to scare their children with words

A sentence that must be heard in many families is "If you are disobedient, parents will not like you when they have younger brothers and sisters." "Mom and parents will not want you if they have younger brothers and sisters." Mind makes a big difference. Arouse children's anxiety, produce dissatisfaction with parents and affect attitudes towards younger siblings.

3: Adults' preference

Many parents or parents have a natural preference for "children". He always said, "The older child must give way to the younger child." Or when two children had conflicts, he firmly stood on the younger side and suppressed the elder. Such behavior will hurt the boss's heart.

4: Parents did not do a good job in the ideological work of the boss

Parents have a condescending sense of arrogance towards their children, and they will not discuss anything with their children. Before giving birth to the second child, there was no communication with the boss. Even if the boss objected, he didn't take it seriously. Such a sudden change will also catch the boss by surprise, with countless entanglements in his heart, not knowing whether his parents still love him or not.

How can we make children get along well with each other?

1: Seek the opinion of the boss

Before planning to have a second child, you need to communicate with your boss, give answers to the various things that the child will worry about in the future, and tell the child that even if he has younger siblings, he will continue to love him. Although the time spent with him will be reduced, the weight of love will last forever. will not decrease. Give the boss enough sense of security, so that the children feel that the arrival of the second child is not hostile.

2: The actual practice of parents should also be fair

After the parents tell the boss that their love will not decrease, their own actions must also follow their promises. Keep your promises to your children. To spend time with the boss, to give them a sense of security in reality. Don't send the eldest to grandparents' house or other places. Let children feel a sense of belonging and participation.

3: Parents can let the elder brother participate in taking care of the second child

Helping parents to do something together is also one of the sources of happiness in children. Parents can ask their children to help with some small things, so that they can affirm their sense of value in their hearts. And in life, you should guide your children to say, "Your brother and sister will definitely like you very much. You see, he is anxious to grow up and play with you." Let the child look forward to playing with his younger siblings in his heart, and there will be no resistance.

4: Parents help the two children to strengthen their relationship

You can strengthen children's cognition of brotherhood and sisterhood by telling stories and watching movies. Let children understand that brothers and sisters should help each other and get along well.

5: There must be rules among children

Patiently tell the boss what kind of strength is in danger of harming the little brother and little sister. Master the strength in daily life or play, and don't touch our dangerous parts with dangerous things. Tell the child such clear rules, and the child will be careful in later life, and will not make mistakes by doing bad things with good intentions.

The palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of flesh, so the education of children should not vary from person to person. The eldest is a child with a strong surface and a fragile heart. I hope parents will not put all their energy on the second child, and pay more attention to this wronged baby!