The 10-year-old grandson speaks rudely to the grandmother who brought him up with one hand, which caused heated discussions among netizens: Parents can't get rid of the responsibility
In the tradition of our Chinese nation, filial piety comes first. Filial piety is also what parents want their children to have. But sometimes, parents dote too much on their children, and instead let the children take the parents' good habits for granted, and gradually lose their filial piety and respect for their elders.
And when the children are at home, the behavior of disrespecting the elderly also makes the parents feel angry and worried, and at the same time, it also makes the parents sad.
Recently, I saw such a message on Weibo: a ten-year-old boy said "Get out! Get out of our house!" to the grandmother who brought him up. This child's behavior can already be said to be unfilial. The old man has only one daughter, and her favorite is her only precious grandson. When her daughter just gave birth to her grandson, she moved to the house where the young couple lived and took care of the child for her daughter. This area is ten years. But the grandson who was brought up by himself would say such things to him, which made the old man very sad. As soon as he came out, the old man began to hesitate whether he should continue to play and stay at his daughter's house.
Netizens commented one after another: "If the parents of the child are very filial to the child's grandma, the child will not say this!", "Educating the child must lead by oneself, the child will treat the parents the same way after treating the grandmother now." , "It's not the son's fault to teach the father. There must be problems with adults when children do this."
There is no parent who does not want their children to be sensible and filial. But how can children's filial piety be cultivated?
⑴Parents should do precepts and deeds
Parents are children's best teachers. Every move of the parents will also subtly affect the children. Parents respect the elderly in daily life, and are gentle and patient with the elderly, so the children will learn to respect the elderly as parents.
But if the parents don't take the elderly in the family seriously at home, then the children will inevitably despise the elderly. Therefore, parents should pay special attention to their actions and attitudes towards the elderly, so as to have a good influence on their children.
⑵ Point out children’s mistakes in time
If the children are still relatively young, then they are at a moment of self-consciousness awakening at this time, with the most emphasis on self-feeling and self-centeredness. If the elders in the family dote on their children more, the children are likely to become the "little emperor" of the family, disrespecting and filial to their parents.
At this time, parents should not be careless, but should seriously point out the children's mistakes, supervise the children to apologize to the elderly and make corrections, so that the children understand that their actions are wrong.
⑶ Let children learn to be grateful
Gratitude is one of the things that children should learn the most. Parents can cultivate their children's gratitude and let them understand what their family has done for them. In this way, children can understand the goodness of their parents, so as to learn to be grateful and repay the elderly.
Parents can let their children call the elderly more often and bring some small gifts in their daily life. It can also let children learn to say "thank you" often, and naturally know how to be grateful.
⑷Let children learn respectful tone
Children do not know how to control their emotions and tone. When they are in a hurry, or when they lose their temper, they will unconsciously use a disrespectful tone.
It's like when a child sometimes blurts out anxiously when an adult blocks the TV: "Get out of the way!" This kind of tone should not be used to the elders. At this time, parents should stop their children in time and point out how to respect others while expressing their ideas correctly.
Children need to be cultivated, which is not only reflected in their academic performance, but also in their character and filial piety. In order for children to learn filial piety, they should be cultivated from an early age. After all, as the saying goes, "Education should start from the baby." Only when the parents nip the child's bad habit of disrespecting people in the bud, can the child become a person who respects and filially respects the elderly.