Ten-year-old grandson made rude remarks to grandmother who was brought up by one hand, sparking heated discussion among netizens: parents cannot get rid of the relationship
In the tradition of our Chinese nation, filial piety comes first. Filial piety is what parents want their children to have. But sometimes, parents dote on their children too much, but instead let their children take their parents' good behavior for granted, and gradually lose their filial piety and respect for their elders.
When the children are at home, the behavior of disrespecting the elderly also makes parents feel angry and worried, and at the same time, it also makes parents sad.
Recently, I saw a message on Weibo: A ten-year-old boy said something like "Get out! Leave our house!" to the grandmother who brought him up. This child's behavior can already be said to be unfilial. This old man has only one daughter, and her favorite is her only precious grandson. When her daughter just gave birth to her grandson, she moved to the house where the young couple lived to take care of her daughter. This area is ten years. But the grandson he brought up by himself would say such words to him, which made the old man very sad. As soon as he came out, the old man began to hesitate whether he should continue to play and stay at his daughter's house.
Netizens left comments one after another: "If the child's parents are very filial to the child's grandmother, the child will not say this!", "Teach the child to lead by himself, and the child will treat his parents the same way he treats his grandmother now." , "The son does not teach the father's fault. There must be a problem with the adults when the child does this."
No parent does not want their children to be sensible and filial. But how can a child's filial piety be cultivated?
⑴Parents should teach by words and deeds
Parents are their children's best teachers. The actions of parents can also have a subtle influence on their children. Parents respect the elderly in their daily life, and they are gentle and patient with the elderly, so the children will also learn to respect the elderly in the same way as the parents.
But if the parents themselves do not take the elderly at home as a serious matter, then the children will inevitably despise the elderly. Therefore, parents should pay special attention to their actions and attitudes towards the elderly, which will have a good impact on their children.
(2) Point out the child's mistakes in a timely manner
If the children are still relatively young, they are just at a moment of self-awareness awakening, emphasizing self-feeling and self-centeredness. If the elderly in the family dote on the children more, the children are likely to become the "little emperors" of the family, disrespecting and filial to their parents.
At this time, parents should not be distracted, but should seriously point out their children's mistakes, supervise their children to apologize to the elderly and make corrections, so that children can understand that their actions are wrong.
(3) Let children learn to be grateful
Gratitude is the most important thing a child should learn. Parents can cultivate a sense of gratitude in their children and let their children understand what their family members have done for them. In this way, children can understand the goodness of their parents, and thus learn to be grateful to the elderly and repay the elderly.
Parents can let their children call the elderly more often and bring some small gifts in their daily life. You can also teach your children to say "thank you" often and naturally know how to be grateful.
⑷ Let children learn to respect the tone of voice
Children do not know how to control their emotions and tone of voice. When they are in a hurry, or when they have a temper, they will unconsciously use a disrespectful tone.
Just like a child sometimes blurts out anxiously when an adult blocks the TV: "Get out of the way!" This kind of tone should not be used for elders. At such times, parents should stop their children in a timely manner and point out how to properly express their thoughts while respecting others.
Children need to be cultivated, which is not only reflected in the child's academic performance, but also in the child's character and filial piety. To teach children to learn filial piety, they should be nurtured from an early age. Only when parents nip their children's bad habit of disrespecting people in the bud from a young age can they make their children a person who respects and filial piety to the elderly.