My brother didn't buy a toy for his younger brother, and the younger brother blurted out a sentence that left the elder brother speechless.

Many families with two children have a similar problem. Before the second child was born, the eldest was very well-behaved and sensible. Since the birth of the second child, his personality has suddenly changed dramatically, he has started to lose his temper, and it is very unpleasant to get along with his younger brothers and sisters. This situation has gradually increased with the liberalization of the two-child policy. Many parents have been searching for an answer to the question of harmony between two children.

When a person is disappointed with you, he will try his best to shout out a word of despair for your last friendliness. A distressing clip was found on many online video platforms. But it's not about love, it's about the emotional line between two brothers. The younger brother in the video looked aggrieved and looked up tearfully at his older brother, who was much taller than him. In the most desperate tone, shouted "you scumbag". No matter how much his brother pleases, he doesn't buy it at all, pushing him away with his hands is his last stubbornness. Even if my brother said "I'll bring you a schoolbag", it wouldn't make my brother's heart broken. What makes my brother so sad? It turned out to be because the elder brother did not buy toys for the younger brother, and the younger brother felt an indescribable pain in his heart when he saw the empty-handed elder brother.

In addition to expressing their distress, many netizens did not forget to make fun of "it's very like that humble love." "It should be the brother who promised and didn't do it, and the brother was so sad." "The brother is too cute, feel distressed for five seconds. "Occasional squabbles like this can be a regular occurrence for some families. What should I do when there is a little noise for three days and a big noise for five days?

The unfriendly attitude between the two children, especially the eldest, may be due to the following reasons:

1: The boss has a sense of security crisis

Many children are the treasures of the family before they have no younger siblings. Everyone in the family revolves around me, but suddenly there is a little kid who is more popular than me, and the boss will have a strong psychological gap, feel that he is left out, and think that his parents no longer love him and don’t want to play with him anymore. . Therefore, there will be a lack of security in the heart, so there will be inner rejection and hatred for the second child.

2: Parents love to use words to scare their children

A sentence that must be heard in many families is, "If you are not obedient, your parents will not like you when they have brothers and sisters." The mind has a big impact. Causes anxiety in children, dissatisfaction with parents, and affects attitudes toward younger siblings.

3: The preference of adults

Many parents or parents have a natural preference for "children" in their hearts. He always says, "The older child must let the younger one." Or when the two children are in conflict, they will firmly stand on the side of the younger and suppress the eldest. Such behavior will hurt the boss's heart.

4: Parents do not do the ideological work of the boss

Parents have a condescending arrogance towards their children and will not discuss anything with their children. There was no communication with the eldest before the second child was born. Even if the boss objected, it didn't matter. Such a sudden change will also catch the boss by surprise, causing countless entanglements in his heart, not knowing whether his parents still love him or not.

How can we make the children get along well with each other?

1: Ask the boss for advice

Before preparing to have a second child, you should communicate with the boss, give answers to the various things that the child will worry about in the future, and tell the child that even if he has a younger brother and sister, he will love him as always. Although the time spent with him will be reduced, the weight of love will always be will not decrease. Give the boss enough security and let the child feel that the arrival of the second child is not hostile.

2: The actual practice of parents should also be fair

After the parents say to the boss that their love will not decrease, their actions must also be fulfilled. Keep your promises to your children. Make time to spend with your boss and give them a sense of security in reality. Don't send the eldest to your grandparents' house or anywhere else. To give children a sense of belonging and participation.

3: Parents can let the eldest take care of the second child

Helping mom and dad to do something together is also one of the sources of happiness in a child's heart. Parents can ask their child to help with small things, so that he will have a sense of self-worth in his heart. And in life, you should guide your child to say, "My younger brother and sister will definitely like you very much. You see he is anxious to grow up and play with you." Let the children look forward to playing with their younger brothers and sisters, and there will be no resistance.

4: Parents help two children to strengthen their relationship

Children's awareness of brotherhood and sisterhood can be enhanced through storytelling and watching videos. Let the children understand that siblings need to help each other and get along well.

5: There should be rules between children

Patiently tell the boss what kind of strength there is a danger of harm to the younger siblings. In daily life or play, you must master the strength, and do not touch everyone's dangerous parts with dangerous things. Tell children such clear rules, and children will be careful in future life, and they will not make mistakes by doing bad things with good intentions.

The palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of meat, and the education of children should not vary from person to person. The eldest is a child with a strong surface and a fragile heart. I hope that parents will not put all their energy on the second child, but pay more attention to this aggrieved baby!