The picture of the 'eccentric' father taking the two children out has become popular. Son: Do I want to lose face?
The picture of the "eccentric" father taking the two children out has become popular. Son: Do I want to lose face?
Nowadays, many families are responding to the call of the state to have a second child. As parents, they have more responsibilities when raising children. In real life, few parents can be impartial and treat their children fairly. Some time ago, the picture of a ''eccentric'' father taking his children out went viral. In the video, the father was holding his eldest daughter in his hand, looking happy, while the other hand was not idle. The other hand leads the walking son on the leash.
The son seems to be much younger than the daughter, but the father does not take special care of his son, but hugs his daughter very dotingly. The son looked very helpless and seemed to be saying: Do I want to lose face? After seeing the video, netizens said that the father's actions were not wrong. The son will inherit the family business in the future, and he can only treat his daughter with love.
But the father said that he was not partial to the child because his sister has always been clingy and always likes to hold her when she goes out. The reason why the younger brother was being led to walk is because this month-old son is just learning to walk and does not want to be held by himself, so this scene we saw appeared. Although the father explained it like this, some netizens don't seem to buy it. It is undeniable that there are indeed many parents in real life who have different attitudes towards their daughters and sons.
Why do more and more families now prefer their daughters?
- Girls love their parents more
It is said that daughters are the little padded jackets of their parents. Girls know how to take care of their parents, feel sorry for them, and help them share housework and pressure. Many girls are spoiled by thousands of things before they get married. After they get married, they experience family life before they understand how difficult it is to be a mother. When they return to their parents' home, they will help their mothers. But sons rarely do this. First, because they are boys, they are not as thoughtful as girls. Second, because men bear more pressure in society, they have no time to take care of their parents.
- Having a daughter is less financially stressful
Today's people are very realistic. If you have a boy, you will marry a wife when the child grows up. It is no exaggeration to say that a house will empty three generations of savings, and most people will have to carry a heavy burden after buying a house. Mortgage. The financial pressure of having a daughter is obviously less, so more and more young parents want to have a daughter, so that they don't have to face the pressure of paying down payment for their children, and they don't have to help their children pay off loans.
- Being a grandmother is easier than being a grandmother
When parents of boys wait for their children to grow up and get married and have children, they are bound to take on the responsibility of being grandmothers and grandfathers, but instead they are exhausted into ''grandchildren''. No matter the child is still young or goes to kindergarten, grandparents always have endless worries. The key is that children are still very precious now. Once the children bump into each other, it will make the elderly feel very distressed. If you encounter some unreasonable daughter-in-law, the old man will be reprimanded. Even if you don't have time to bring your grandchildren, you have to give some money to compensate, because in the traditional Chinese concept, it is only natural for grandparents to bring grandchildren, while grandparents are much more relaxed.
What should be the right way to treat two children?
- Parents should not prioritize boys over girls
In some backward areas, there is still a patriarchal idea, especially in some mountainous areas, after a daughter is born, a son must be born. So we will see some families. After the mother has three or four daughters, she is still giving birth. After giving birth to a son, parents often do not pay as much attention to girls as boys. Therefore, parents must put an end to the idea of valuing sons over women, and if the elderly in the family have this idea, they must also instill the same concept of boys and girls from time to time.
- Parents cannot be biased
Families with two children often have parents who are biased. Some parents blame another child for criticizing because one child is more obedient, or constantly criticize another child who is underachieving because one child has better grades. Parents should not compare two children, doing so will only have the opposite result, and there will be discord between the two children due to parental bias and comparison.
Every parent should give enough love to their children, and not keep compressing this love because of having two or more children. In a multi-child family, parents educate their children to be fair and just in both thought and behavior.