The picture of the 'eccentric' father taking his son and daughter out became popular. Son: Do I want to lose face?
The picture of the "eccentric" father taking his son and daughter out became popular. Son: Do I want to lose face?
Nowadays, many families are responding to the call of the state to have a second child. As parents, they have more responsibilities in raising children. In real life, few parents can be impartial and treat their children fairly. Some time ago, the picture of an "eccentric" father taking his son and daughter out became popular. In the video, the father is holding the eldest daughter in his hands, looking happy, and the other hand is not idle. The other hand leads the walking son on a leash.
The son seems to be much younger than the daughter, but the father did not take special care of the son, but hugged the daughter very lovingly. The son looked very helpless, as if he was saying: Do I want to lose face? After seeing this video, netizens said that there is nothing wrong with this father's approach, and that his son will inherit the family business in the future, and he can only treat his daughter with love.
But this father said that he has no preference for raising children, because his sister has always been clingy and always likes to hug her when she goes out. The reason why the younger brother was being led for a walk was because the month-old son happened to be learning to walk and was unwilling to be held by him, so the scene we saw appeared. Although this father explained it in this way, some netizens don't seem to buy it. It is undeniable that in real life, there are indeed many parents who have different attitudes towards daughters and sons.
Why do more and more families prefer daughters now?
- Girls love their parents more
It is said that the daughter is the little padded jacket of the parents. The girl knows how to take care of her parents, loves her parents, and knows how to help them share housework and pressure. Many girls are loved by thousands of people before they get married. After they get married and experience family life, they understand how difficult it is to be a mother. When they return to their natal homes, they will help their mothers. But sons rarely do this, firstly because they are boys, not as delicate as girls, and secondly, men bear more pressure in society and have no time to take care of their parents.
- The economic pressure of having a daughter is less
People nowadays are very realistic. If a boy is born, the child will marry a wife after he grows up. It is no exaggeration to say that a house will empty the savings of three generations. Most people have to carry heavy burdens after buying a house. mortgage. The economic pressure of having a daughter is obviously less, so more and more young parents want to have a daughter, so that they don't have to face the pressure of paying the down payment for the child, and don't have to help the child repay the loan.
- Being a grandma is easier than being a grandma
Parents who have boys wait for their children to grow up, get married and have children, they will inevitably assume the responsibility of being grandma and grandpa, and they will be tired into "grandchildren" instead. Regardless of whether the child is still young or in kindergarten, grandparents always have endless worries. The key is that children are still very precious nowadays, and once the children bump into each other, it will make the elderly feel very distressed. If you encounter some unreasonable daughter-in-laws, the old man will be reprimanded. Even if I don't have time to take care of my grandchildren, I still have to spend part of the money as compensation, because in the traditional Chinese concept, it is only natural for grandparents to take care of their grandchildren, but it is much easier for grandparents.
What should be the correct way to treat two children?
- Parents should not favor sons over daughters
In some backward areas, there is still a patriarchal idea, especially in some mountainous areas. After giving birth to a daughter, a son must be born. So we will see that in some families, after the mother has three or four daughters, she continues to give birth. After giving birth to a son, the parents often pay less attention to girls than boys. Therefore, parents must put an end to the idea of patriarchal sons over girls. If the elderly in the family have this kind of thinking, they must always instill in them the same concept of boys and girls.
- Parents cannot be eccentric
Families with two children often have parental eccentricity. Some parents will blame the other child for criticism because one child is more obedient, or constantly criticize the other child with poor grades because one child has better grades. Parents should not compare two children. Doing so will only have the opposite result, and there will be discord between the two children due to the parents' eccentricity and comparison.
Every parent should give their children enough love, and this love should not be continuously compressed just because they have two or more children. In multi-child families, parents should educate their children to be fair and just in both thinking and behavior.