Baoma took her son out to buy vegetables, and covered her eyes as soon as she left the gate of the community. Netizens: too witty
Baoma took her son out to buy vegetables, and covered her eyes as soon as she left the gate of the community. Netizens: too witty
After having a child, one of the things most parents are most afraid of is taking the child out, because when the child goes out and sees toys, there will always be a "war".
After all, unlike adults, children have to consider the cost-effectiveness and whether the price is appropriate when buying things. They want to buy as long as they like something, which makes many parents complain. Some time ago, such a video appeared on the Internet. A mother wanted to go out to buy vegetables, but she was afraid that her young child would not be safe at home alone, so she went out with her son in her arms.
As a result, the mother covered the child's eyes as soon as she left the gate of the community. Not to mention the child was confused, the passers-by who saw it were probably also very confused, wondering what the mother was doing. But if you take a closer look, you can understand it, because there is a small stall not far from the gate of the community, and there are exquisite toys everywhere in the small stall.
This mother probably did this to avoid a "war" with her son, so she directly covered his eyes when the child didn't find the stall. Faced with this treasure mother's approach, many netizens said: This mother's approach is too clever, and she has learned another trick. People without children may not understand it. They feel that this mother is superfluous. If she disagrees with her child buying toys, she can simply refuse it. But sometimes parents are helpless when faced with children's mischief.
So what principles should parents follow when raising their children?
- Make rules in advance
When parents are raising their children, the most important thing is to set the rules in advance, just take the matter of buying toys. Some parents will explain not to buy toys before taking their children out, but they give up their principles when they see the toys playing and rolling around. This will only let the children know that the rules can be overturned at will. Sometimes, the child will no longer obey. Therefore, the attitude of parents is very important. In the process of children's growth, there are still many places where we have to fight wits and courage with them. As parents, we must be calm, and at the same time, we must not pay for the child's willfulness.
- Patiently communicate with children
Young babies are self-centered in everything they do, especially after they are two years old, their needs and self-assertion will become more prominent. Once the requirements are not met by the parents, they will express it through crying or other shameless ways. Parents first understand the child's emotional and psychological development status, so that they can patiently guide and educate the child.
- Equivalent exchange with children
Most of the children nowadays are only children. When they were young, they got what they wanted, so that when the children grow up, parents can’t control them. Once the children want to buy things, they will cry loudly when they are not satisfied. Faced with this situation, parents are actually very helpless. Parents may wish to exchange with their children for equivalent value. For example, when telling children that they want a certain toy or something, they also need to pay, such as cleaning or washing dishes. In this process, children's independence has been exercised, and at the same time they have learned to cherish.
- Parents must be firm
Once the child is crying and unable to calm down, it is difficult to listen to other people's words. At this time, parents must be ruthless and resolutely reject their unreasonable demands. Once they resist, parents can stand by and watch. If we are satisfied as soon as the child cries, it is easy to develop some bad habits of the child, such as cheating. But a firm attitude does not mean that we can beat or insult children at will, which will only arouse children's fear.
Children don't know whether a thing is right or wrong, as long as they want what they want, they will get it, and their thoughts have a lot to do with their parents' education. Parents usually blindly satisfy their children's requirements, which will only bring many kinds of harm to the children. The word ''education'' is not just lip service, it requires a lot of hard work from parents. Parents should remember that satisfying children's unreasonable demands is not love, it is a kind of spoiling. Educate children to understand temperance and think independently, this is true love. Family education is like building a building. Only with a good foundation can the building be built higher and higher.