A 50-year-old mother gave birth to a second child, the child was born safely, and the 30-year-old son cried: the marriage cannot be completed

The country has always implemented family planning before, and the policy has only been relaxed in the past two years, so many families have gradually begun to have a second child. For the older generation, it is natural to think that a family must have many children, but for the modern young people, they think that life is too difficult, one child is enough to educate, and they do not have so much financial resources to support themselves more kids. So there is a very strange phenomenon, many older women are rushing to have a second child, but young people don't bother to have a second child.

50-year-old mother gave birth to second child, 30-year-old Dabao cried

Colleague Da Ling encountered such a thing. Da Lingling is an only child, 30 years old this year, and has a very stable job. After graduating from university, he has been working in Beijing. Currently, he has a regular girlfriend who is ready to get married. But at the beginning of this year, Daling's father called and said that his mother gave birth to a younger brother. Da Ling couldn't accept the news at all, and he didn't go home for a year, and his parents wanted a second child behind his back! Both parents are fifty years old, and they still want children. His girlfriend was stunned when he heard the news, and Da Ling felt that the breakup was not far away. Because of her older age, Daling's mother had a caesarean section, and her recovery was not very good, so Daling had to help take care of her younger brother after returning home. Because of her physical injuries, her mother also regretted not having a second child. Looking at the emaciated mother and the overwhelmed father, Daling didn't know what to do in the future. He was planning to get married, but suddenly a younger brother came out. The salary of his parents can only meet their basic needs. The future education of his younger brother is estimated I still have to rely on myself, this marriage probably won't work out.

When you have a second child, you must pay attention to the following:

(1) The age should not be too old;

Younger mothers can recover quickly because of their better physical function. At the same time, because of their good physical condition, there are relatively few risks during childbirth; older women are not only dangerous in childbirth, but also very troublesome to recover. The grade is older, and it will be very hard to take care of the children by yourself, and there will be a series of mental illnesses caused by overwork.

(2) Solicit opinions from family members;

Having a second child requires not only money, but also manpower and time. Therefore, before having a second child, you must discuss with your family and try to get the support of your family. If you insist on going your own way, there may be a series of accidents later. Unexpected consequences even lead to the breakdown of the family and the increase of conflicts.

(3) Assess your family's financial resources;

A family’s economic resources determine the family’s standard of living. If a family is only able to maintain a basic life, then do not rush to have a second child, because the cost of living and education after the birth of a child is very high. We need to try our best to Considering the children's future growth space, after all, children are not pets, and they are simply kept if they are full.